He unfriended me on Facebook…..How to deal with the awkwardness

posted 1 year ago in The Lounge
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Bumble bee

@amoret11:  no advice, but my own brother unfriended me on facebook because he didn’t agree with some stuff i put. guys can be moody and sensitive for the dumbest reasons lol. 

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Helper bee

@amoret11:  Yikes. Awkward. Is it possible that he was joking? I could see my BIL doing this as a joke. If he really unfriended you because of your political views than I would just take the high road and be nice to him and act normally but I wouldn’t reaccept him on FB, OR I would accept him and then just block him from seeing any of my stuff.. Wait, is that not the high road? :)

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Sugar bee

Taking the high road would be to reaccept him as a friend and do nothing else. It is the high road because you are helping him to make it like “nothing happened”. 

It is up to HIM to hide your posts from his feed (which he should have done in the first place). You don’t want to hide your stuff from him and then have problems when he tries to look at your wedding photos or photos of future babies or something. 

It sucks that he is close minded but he’s your sister’s husband. Suck it up and reaccept him. 

  

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Honey bee

@amoret11:  Accept the friend request. He unfriended you in the heat of the moment and now he’s changed his mind. What’s the problem?

Posting political stuff on FB is usually not a good idea, unless you’re prepared to take criticism for it.

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Honey bee

To keep the peace and keep awkwardness to a minimum, I’d re-add him and put him on a limited list so that he can’t see everything you post. I have my FIL on something like this, because I don’t want the drama of de-friending him, but the constant barrage of political/racist/offensive posts and stupid cartoons are just WAY too much to bite my tongue.

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Bumble bee

I’d add him back. When you see him during your visit, make a lighthearted joke about how he deleted you. I think it’s common for people to purge friends around election season. Probably not as big of a deal as it might seem.

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Sugar bee

Personally I’d add him and move on.  I’d probably try to see the funny side of using facebook as a political mediator…

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Bee Keeper

Just add him and put him on a limited profile where he can’t see your wall and forget about it. Don’t let it affect your non-fb relationship with sis and BIL.

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Sugar bee

@MrsBot:  I took so long thinking out my answer you beat me to it!

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Blushing bee

I would re friend him as well, makes him feel a bit small and you are taking the high road, your sister obviously went to a lot of effort with him to see your side and get him to re friend you so I wouldn’t knock that as well.

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Sugar bee

@amoret11:  FB seems to engender entirely too much drama among otherwise reasonable adults.

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Honey bee

@MrsBot:  ”When you see him during your visit, make a lighthearted joke about how he deleted you.”

Sorry I think that’s a bad idea. Better to accept the request and pretend the whole thing didn’t happen. Bringing it up would just be awkward.

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