Post # 1
Last night we had a frank discussion about the wedding. (I’m waiting on the ring, it’s bought) He was really beating around the bush and finally blurted out that he didn’t want to propose UNTIL we pick a date first.
I was like “Sounds great! What did you have in mind?” ……………
Now, I’m sure my face registered 10 different emotions at one time. I have been imagining the wedding to be a totalllly different theme and Halloween was not it! He immediately started searching for Halloween weddings and found this image:
Annnd he flipped out yelling “YES!!” at the computer screen. He went from barely being interested in “wedding talk” to full blow school girl pumped. At that point, I knew that I just wanted him happy and involved so if he wants Halloween themed.. let’s do it! Whatever makes him light up like that, I can turn into the DIY, gorgeous wedding I want. I knew he was serious when he woke up this morning and said “I can’t stop thinking about the halloween thing!” Aww.
So anyway, while he’s off planning hay rides in his head.. I’m worried about a few things. So Bees, tell me what you’d think as a guest:
We’re looking at next October and Halloween falls on a Thursday. We’re looking at the Saturday before Halloween, October 26th.
1. If you have children (we do not and want an adult reception only), is it normal for you ‘trick or treat’ the Saturday before Halloween or have some event that would prevent you from coming? I don’t want to have a lot of cancellations.
2. If you received a invitation to a wedding that said “Costumes Required” would that bother you?
I don’t want to FORCE people into wearing them but personally “Costumes Encouraged” may make some choose the safe route and wear regular clothes in hopes of not being the only one in costume.
Post # 3
Oh my gosh how fun!! I would love a halloween themed wedding…not sure how many people would participate in the dressing up portion, so just make sure you don’t get bummed out if people choose not to. But omg if I could re-do my wedding I would do a halloween theme, that would be so cool 🙂 As far as the kids and trick or treating that weekend, around here it usually happens on the day…so you would need to look into that more for your area.
Post # 4
Aww, it’s so cute and funny how excited he is. And it’s so nice of you to go along with something that makes him want to participate!
I think it sounds like a blast!
I don’t think trick-or-treating is a huge deal (at least for me), so I don’t know if people will not go to your wedding because of it. And like the PP said, some people will most definitely choose not to dress up in costumes, so don’t feel bad about that.
Post # 5
I would turn up in my costume no problem but I would be worried that the bride and groom don’t seem to be taking marriage seriously 🙁
Post # 6
@Irish-bride: I wouldn’t think that at all!! 🙂
Post # 7
I agree with Irish Bride. It sounds kind of childish to me. Weddings are usually about showing that you have grown & matured. Dressing up in costumes shows the childish side.
Post # 8
I have to agree, I don’t think I could take the wedding or marriage seriously if shown up in costumes. You can do a a Halloween wedding without doing the childness of costumes.
Post # 9
I told him I want the ceremony to be intimate, serious and us/the wedding party to be dressed appropriately and then we can change for the reception to something more festive.
@mvest: MY wedding isn’t about showing that I have “grown and matured”. It’s about us coming together as one in front of our friends and family and doing it in a way that fits our personalities. I am mature in the ways that matter and I take everything else with humor, laughter, and FUN.
Post # 10
@sweetdee522: I think everyone will love it, I don’t think it has to do with maturity. I laughed throughout my entire ceremony, does that mean I didn’t take it seriously? Absolutely not 🙂 Have fun with it, do what fits best to you and your SO’s interests!
Post # 11
I know a few people that have done costume weddings (Not even ON Halloween!) and their guests loved it! Everyone had a blast. I think it is so much fun! As far as trick-or-treating goes, around where we are that usually takes place on a week night. They try to discourage kids being out later on weekends. I think you will be fine.
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
I totally agree, having costumes and a Halloween wedding does NOT mean you will have an immature celebration, it’s really showcasing the fun side of your relationship and personalities! I think “costumes (not required but?) enouraged” would be the way to go, that way guests who are less comfortable to dress up have the option not to, but you can spread the word that yes, lots of people are dressing up so please do and don’t feel awkward about it!
Post # 13
I think a Halloween themed wedding sounds like fun! I think you two could meet somewhere in the middle. I like idea of having a traditional ceremony but maybe the two of you can change for the reception into something more “Halloween-y” yet still classy (if that makes sense). I personally don’t like the idea of asking guests to dress up in costumes. However your reception can SCREAM “Halloween”, from the decor, colors, favors, even the music (Monster Bash, anyone?)! What about making your reception a kind of like a Masquerade party? Your favors can be masks that the guests can wear. Doesn’t even have to the “traditional” masquerade masks, it can be kind of wacky and fun. That way, your guests can still wear regular clothes but can also be dressed up…sort of!
Post # 14
This is such a great idea! And I don’t think it meakes it seem like you’re not serious. As to the costume, I think it’s fine to say costumes required and then just in case maybe have a box of just in case costumes yours, SOs, and families from years past, or even buy a few cheep the day after Halloween! Best wishes!
Post # 15
Thanks for the great idea, ladies!
I am trying to strike the balance of FUN, chic, not corny. Like This:
Masks would be perfect.. maybe allowing costumes but providing masquerade masks for those who want to dress in regular clothes..? I would love to see what some of our crazy friends/family would dress up as. 🙂
Post # 16
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I’d incorporate some kinf of trick or treat activity into the reception. Perhaps the kids could havea candy scavenger hunt or something. I would not require constumes, but rather encourge them.