Post # 1
I’m super bummed. We got it as a Christmas gift/wedding gift from his mother. She has given a 12 piece set to all of her kids once they got married.
We didn’t register for them since we have an 8 year old set of pots and pans (that are shot to sh*t, i might add) and we didn’t need new ones. Though, eventually, we will need new ones – in about 1 year.
I can see how the $800 would sound better to him, and I’m not even sure we’d get cash for it – maybe just store credit?
If you really wanted the set would you try to talk your FI into it or would you just fold and try to get the cash like he wants?
Post # 3
I would try to talk him into it…mostly because we got that set from my mom and I LOVE it!
Post # 4
Good pots and pans will last forever! You should definitely keep them. Isn’t it a bit rude to return a gift from his mother for cash, anyway? I’d be pissed if I were her.
Post # 5
My FI has a very strict “never return anything” self imposed policy, so I have no advice. BUT, my advice would be to just sit him down and say “yo dude, our pots are crap, your mom obviously wanted us to have these, and what are you going to buy with $800 at Macys/Crate and Barrel/wheverever anyway?”. And if that doesn’t work, have him cook something very delicate, like a hollandaise sauce, in your current pans and cook one in the new ones. His mind will be changed. FWIW, my FI initially thought All-Clad cost too much…and then he used one to heat up a can of soup. They’re like cooking with baby Jesus or something. It’s magical.
Post # 6
his mom is gonna wonder where the pans are when she visits!!! which is gonna be AWKWARD
Post # 7
@skippydarling: Yes x20, talk him into it! If you cook most of your meals at home, its totally worth it. You are going to have to upgrade in a year anyways if you return it… and if you buy a cheaper set, you will replace it much more often and it will end up costing you more than the $800 over a life time. Somebody bought us a $400 cookware set and we exchanged it for a more expensive one (and we paid for the difference!!)
Post # 8
@otto2008: I know – she says she knows we didn’t register for them so she would understand if we wanted to return them but it makes me feel really bad to do so.
It is odd because I did register for ONE copper-core all clad pot and pan beacause I’ve heard that only the copper-core all clads are worth the price. She asked me about it and I said I had done my homework and that’s why I picked the copper-core but I think she just wanted us to have a full set. I’m not complaining now because I’m really excited over it.
Post # 9
I would be over the moon if someone bought me that set!!! I would never return it!!
Post # 10
@StL.Ashley: I could use some baby Jesus in my kitchen…..
Post # 11
KEEP THEM . They are awesome! I did a lot of research on All-Clad and most things I read found no huge differences between the stainless and the copper core (besides the price of course).
Post # 12
Omg keep them! They will last forever. Just promise to cook him lots of food 😉
Post # 13
Keep them! They last a lifetime. That is an incredibly generous gift that you will use forever.
Post # 14
Dude. He needs some sense snacked into him. I HATE having to cook with SO’s pot and pan set because we have some all clad at home. I agree with @StL.Ashley: it’s like cooking with baby Jesus.
ETA: lol my phone autocorrected “smacked” to “snacked” but I think it’s still appropriate so I’m leaving it!
Post # 15
@cmbr: Well that’s good to know! Thanks!
Post # 16
Yeah, I’d talk to him about it. My fi would certainly understand.. but you’ll need to find a way for your fi to be on board.
Maybe mention as the PP did – it would be rude to give them back and ask for cash. And it sounds like this is something that his mother does for each couple.. so pretty much a tradition for her.