Post # 1
FI and I got engaged Sept 2010. We immediately agreed to get married summer 2011. Booked our venue and set a date of 7-9-11 in Oct. Now I asked all 5 of my bridesmaids within 2 weeks of the proposal. Here we are in Jan and he hasn’t asked anyone yet! I’m not too worried about 2 of the guys (his brother and my brother) because they will obviously be at our wedding anyway and maybe already even assume they’re in it. He plans on asking his best friend and the other 2 guys he’s just not sure who he wants. I even told him I’m ok with an uneven party if he decides on 4 guys total. He has all kinds of excuses for why he can’t ask them yet. We have tons of time, I’m busy, they live out of town so I haven’t seen them etc. I’m worried these guys will make summer vacation plans, possibly get engaged themselves since a few have long term gfs, have other weddings to go to. I’m not even sure if these old friends of his even know we are getting married! I hate to keep nagging him about this. Is it normal to wait so long? What’s the latest he can ask them?
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Post # 3
Probably 5 months out or so. My DH waited awhile too. Men just aren’t as excited about that kind of thing, ya know?
Post # 4
MY FI waited a while..but then again so did I! We got engaged May 2010, and JUST asked over Christmas break while we were with our families/friends in our hometown. I made stuff for my bridesmaids and set it all up and gave it to them on Christmas. He literally just decided who all was going to be in it and which was going to be the best man while we were home in December and made phone calls. It was actually funny bc the people we asked had assumed they were in our wedding party but told us after they were wondering why we hadn’t asked yet! I’m sure he’ll get around to it – guys are so laid back about that kind of stuff…
Post # 5
My FI hasn’t “really” asked his 4 yet either. I put really in qoutes because he just assumed that his brother and cousin already knew that they were in the bridal party so he didn’t feel the need to ask them…but, you still gotta because eventually they came to me asking! (They came to me because they were worried that something was up with the FI, by the way). We have 7 months left and he still hasn’t asked his last 2 and has no clue on who he wants to ask either!
Post # 6
I agree with PPs, “that’s men.” We’ve been engaged since June, and while FI really does know who they’ll be and he’s asked some, he has yet to ask a few. He’s just too nice, and feels like he should be asking everyone! Haha. Thankfully we’ve at least told all of our friends and families so they’re planning on being there, but still…I bet he wont officially ask the rest of his groomsmen for about a half a year! I keep telling him to ask them now, because if they happened to get asked to be in another wedding and he hasn’t asked yet, he’s got no one to blame.
Post # 7
my guy can’t seem to narrow his field down. I am only having a MOH and a bridesmaid, and between his brothers, best friends and every friend who he has had to stand up for ( I swear he could be in the male version of 27 Dresses!) he can’t decide what to do. I told him he has a few months to decide, but right now I am envisioning us at the alter with a couple dozen guys on his side in tuxes! LOL