Post # 1
I’m a little less than three months out from my wedding date and am coming a little unspooled.
Up until now I’ve felt good about the choices Fiance and I made for our wedding – venue, food, etc. – but now I find myself second guessing every little thing and agonizing over even the most minute decisions.
It’s not that I xpect the day to be perfect, or think that my guests will be hugely upset if, say, the programs are gatefolds rather than fans, but I just can’t. let. this. stuff. go. Speaking from experience, my Maid/Matron of Honor reminds me that what matters is that we’re married at the end of the day, and while I appreciate the sentiment it kinda makes me feel like a superficial brat because some reptillian corner of my brain has latched onto chair sashes and refuses to let me sleep because, ZOMG, teh purple may not be right!
Anyone else experience something similar? How did you cope?
Post # 3
It sounds to me like you know logically that you’re over-thinking stuff, but because you’re so emotionally close to it all, and spending so so so much time on every decision, that it’s hard to let it go. Right?
Maybe taking a little break from the wedding planning would be beneficial to your emotional well being. A romantic date with your Fiance, a girls’ day at your favorite spa, even just an evening of drinks – with NO wedding talk allowed! Ideally no wedding thoughts allowed. Time to focus on YOU instead of IT. 🙂
I haven’t been there yet (too far out still), but know that when I get too wrapped up in other projects, space and breaks often help me keep my perspective.
Post # 4
I don’t usually drink. But maybe now is the time to start?
Jack Daniels is a good name for a DOC, right?
Post # 5
Hahaha, don’t resort to alcohol! Well, don’t abuse alcohol and the coping it provides. I think its an emotional time and that’s playing into your decisions and making you obsess over things you never imagined you’d care that much about. I am confident you’ll love the way things turn out.
I hope you’re able to find peace again before the wedding! Ooooh, maybe you can find a weekend to do a spa trip! I feel like that’s always a stress reliever. Not only because a massage or facial is great, but because you can be alone with your thoughts (I do some of my best stuff when I’m all alone in a sauna).
Post # 6
I think you’re both right that some sort of break from the process would be ideal. I may have to thrown my Blackberry into the East River, but that should be doable.
(Side note. Lookee here at my new tinted background thingy. I have leveled up, Bee style! Whoo!)