Post # 1
So, my parents think that having the bridal party and their guest/spouses are too many for the head table. It would be about 20-22 people…I just know that if I were someone’s date to a wedding and I had to go and sit by myself, I would feel super awkward. What do you think? How many did you have at your head table??
Post # 3
We decided to have a sweetheart table (just the two of us) instead because we didn’t want to have our Bridal Party sitting apart from their dates.
Post # 4
We will have a head table of 12 (5 GMs and 5 BMs plus the two of us). Majority of them are couples in the bridal party as we use mutual friends, so it’s not a problem.
But I normally see bridal party in the head table only, not include their spouse/GF/BF. I think it’s okay to have the other half sit at the rest of the tables. You can sit them in your friends table so they should have someone to talk to during the reception?
Post # 5
agree, that would be awkward. could you just do you, your Maid/Matron of Honor and the Bridesmaid or Best Man at the head and then put the rest of the bridal party at a separate table?
Post # 6
I ran into this problem too. I didn’t want to split up my bridal party with their dates but I also didn’t want to be secluded from everyone at our own table. I opted to keep the head table small – My Sister (MOH) and her boyfriend, My husband and myself and His brother (best man) and his Wife – so only 6 of us. It worked out great and then i just put the rest of the bridal party at the same table with their dates.
Post # 7
@MelissaSB: That’s a thought…hmmm….
Post # 8
We sat just the bridal party at our head table. They stayed there while we talked, and for maybe the first half hour of the reception, then they got up and sat with their dates. We didn’t have dinner at our reception, but I’ve been to other weddings where the bridal party just stays at the head table the whole time.
Post # 9
I had this thought too, because I wanted everyone at a head tabel, but didn’t want to seperate them. This was always a downer for me when I went to weddings. I found some ideas…
Something like this. I think it’s called a kings tabel.
This was another option for us to be able to see everyone and still have a “head” table. It’s big anough to fit people, but not one big long table.
Post # 10
@anna4041: Thank you so much! 🙂
Post # 11
The last few weddings I went to, the head table was bride, groom, siblings and or Maid/Matron of Honor, Bridesmaid or Best Man and dates. It wasnt everyone all inclusive.
Post # 12
have you considered leaving the parties +1’s to sit with the rest of the guests? Honestly I have never seen a head table with spouses and it may be awkward for them if they don’t know many people but they wouldn’t be by themselves for too long.
Post # 13
I have a small bridal party (Best Man is FI’s brother and Maid/Matron of Honor is my sister), so our head table will be me and Fiance, my two kids, Bridesmaid or Best Man and his wife and two kids, and Maid/Matron of Honor and her hubby.
I’ve been in a wedding where my partner had to sit elsewhere…it was not very fun.
Post # 14
@Kenic315: We are actually doing this. We’re not calling it a head table though. We thought about having a sweetheart table and then having a bridal party/date table but since most of the tables will be rounds the numbers were awkard. We have 6 Bridesmaid or Best Man and 6Groomsmen and most of them also have spouses/SOs so we’re going to have a long table with us and all of them and then everyone else will be at rounds. Techinically a head table, but like I said we’re not calling it a head table 🙂
I should mention though that it won’t be one long table. I guess it would be more of a king’s table like one of the PP said
Post # 15
@lamkky: I would never actually be sitting at the head table (i’d be dancing, talking to my SO, etc.) if I was required to sit at a head table. I just try to imagine it as what I would prefer… I would most definitely feel very awkward if I was asked to sit at a table away from my soon to be hubby. I think this tradition is traditional but outdated for many, and I suggest letting them sit with your dates and enjoy a moment of intimacy with a sweetheart table 🙂 Good luck