Post # 1
I’m not sure if this belongs in logistics, but anyways…
I’m trying to figure out a seating plan for the head table. I know there are a lot of options out there, but I either don’t know what they are called or can’t find a succinct list of options.
The only two that I really know:
sweatheart table (bride and groom only)
Traditional head table (bride and groom + wedding party)
There must be other options – any help is welcome!
Post # 2
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Mixed head table with bride and groom, and wedding party with their significant others seated with them.
Family head table with bride and groom and their parents.
For my first wedding I did a sweetheart table with a head table on either side of us. One with his immediate family and one with my immediate family. I let my bridal party sit with their significant others and friends/family at other tables.
Post # 3
In the UK, the head table ususally consists of the bride and groom and their respective parents. The bridal party sit amongst the guests with their spouse/friends.
I’m opting to have no head table as such- I’m really uncomfortable with the idea of people watching us eat…
I am finding this is causing headaches with my parents, though, who are all for the traditional table set up. We’re thinking of having us, our parents and our bridal party and their partners. Really it’s 9 people total as only my sister (MOH) has a partner, and we’ll be sat on a normal rectangle table.
Post # 4
mildlybookish: What is the number of people in your wedding party, and what is the number the table will accomodate?
We are having two “head” tables of ten, and seated at those two tables will be the wedding party and spouses, as well as two couples who are very close to us. Beyond that we arranged guests by interests. Hope that helps.
Post # 5
We didn’t really do a head table. We sat at a regular round table with the best man and his fiance and my MOH and her husband and kiddos. It worked great! We weren’t at the table long, but while we ate it was nice to be with our best man/MOH who were very low maintenance.
Post # 6
Astra: We are having four people on each side in the wedding party. One thing that is tripping my up is, I like the idea of those in the wedding party being able to sit with their significant others. But I don’t necessarily like the idea of a sweetheart table – unless it wasn’t so set apart from everyone else. I think though that if I put everyone at the head table with their SOs it will be huge! (Another thing – one of the bridesmaids is a junior bridesmaid, and I think she will probably feel more comfortable sitting with her family, so there’s that too).
We are having a kid-friendly wedding – which is important to us, since so many people would be travelling great distances to be there.
Most of wedding party is married and some have kids. I’m planning on having a couple of really cute kids tables for the older kids. I guess the issue is with SOs. Do I seat them at the head table with spouses, or do I put them at regular tables so they can attend to kids if they need to?
I like the look of the traditional head table, but can’t figure out the logistics. I know I can’t have it all and that we just need to make a decision.
Post # 7
Ok, I’m starting to rethink this a bit and it would make it easier if the junior bridesmaid wasn’t paired with a groomsman. Our original plan was 3 BMs, 3 GMs and a junior bridesmaid. I was worried that it would look lopsided, but now I think if we add in another GM, it adds in complications.
Now to figure out the seating…
Post # 8
JenGirl: I kind of really like that idea. And Yay! for people who are low maintenance!
Post # 9
So here are some initial ideas that I don’t mind.
But I really like that idea about the table with the MOH, Best man and spouses.
Post # 10
mildlybookish: Yeah, I don’t remember where I stole that idea but it just made life so much easier! The rest of the bridesmaids and bridesguys and groomsmen sat with their spouses (and kids) at tables with their social group so they could spend time with people they know but don’t get to see often. I was never a big fan of a big head table like royalty, or something. When everyone is sitting on one side of a long table, I always think it looks like they’re a bit on display and it’s hard to have a conversation with anyone other than the people right next to you. Plus, you’re really only at the table while you eat and maybe to catch a quck breather every once in awhile.
Post # 11
we are completely throwing the book away with our top table and just doing bride groom best man MOH – my FI father passed away and my dad isnt the most confident so for us it was about people being comfortable – so we will have a small top table – BM’s and Partners and Groomsmen and Partners will be on a table each and My family and Fi’s family will be on a table just infront of us.
Post # 12
We’re chucking the head table entirely because my FI (who is from a place where they do head tables!) is so irritated that I’m not sitting with him during his brother’s wedding. Personally, I’m fine with it, but his horrified face was HYSTERICAL. He’s not a wedding guy so I mean, I guess he didn’t know that’s how it is.
So. We’re not doing any kind of a head table. We’re sitting at a normal round table with my parents, his parents, my brother and his FI and his brother and his wife. The bridal party is going to sit with their dates and their friends, at the tables next to us.
Post # 13
We’re doing a sweetheart table because our wedding and reception will be in the same location and I want to get some time on our wedding day to spend with my FI. Then we’ll just have our immediate families and our wedding party with their families, seated at the tables closest to us.
Post # 14
We’re doing a kings’ table. It’ll be nearly us, nearly all of the bridal party, their SO’s and their children. 2-3 of the bridal party and their SOs have asked to sit at regular tables so they could be with their friends. that works for us because our bridal party, SOs, and their kids were initially too many ppl to fit comfortably at our kings’ head table. Ppl will be sitting on both sides of the table. We’re doing a receiving line of just the 2 of us before the dinner and we plan to eat the whole meal w/our friends.
Post # 15
We’re doing a King’s table with our family (parents, siblings and grandparents) and two round tables on either side with the groomsmen and bridesmaids with their significant others