Post # 1
so, we each have 6 people in our bridal party: 12
plus us two: 14
plus parents would make 18 people at the head table.
here are my questions.
1) is it normal to have parents at the head table? Do we have to?
2) I have two MOHs he has one best man. It’s my understanding that it would be my moh on one side his best man on the other.. but if we have our parents there it would be uneven (2 girls plus my parents on my side, 1 guy plus parents on his side) and then the second level head table would be uneven too…
I don’t particularly want our parents there, or to have to choose a MOH to have up top but I AM a bit anal about balance.
I guess another option is for it to be Me and FI then just our parents on one level and rest of bridal party on the other. but I can see it now, his mom is gonna drive me nuts being there…
I am just wondering if I am being crazy (this is quite possible) or if it would be OK to say- no our parents should sit with their guests (especially since your mom insisted on having a million people- let her sit with them!)
Post # 3
@mayflowerbride13: When I was a BM in a friend’s wedding, the parents were not at the head table. It was just the couple and BMs and GMs alternating.
Post # 4
I’ve never seen parents at a head table! I think you should just seat them as close to you as possible, but not at the head table (lke the front tables). Then just do alternating BM/GM without any real specific order maybe?
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
We did a sweetheart table to avoid the whole issue. BUT, it’s not usually standard for the parents to sit at the head table. The 2 tables closest to you is fine.
Post # 6
I agree with PPs, it pretty typical to have one or two tables with parents, grandparents, etc. These tables are usually front and centre, directly across from the head table.
Post # 7
@juliette.eliza: I wanted to do this but FI says no. boo.
okay lol I’m hoping to get enough Bees saying it is okay to not have them at head table to be able to print and show FI! ;p
Would it be equally acceptable to do girls on my side boys on his? (since I have the 2 mohs it seems like best way, maybe.. if it wouldn’t be horribly frowned upon)
Post # 8
In the UK (I don’t know where you’re from so am just adding my two cents) it’s only parents, MOH and Best Man who sit with the bride and groom at the head table (8 people). The rest of the bridesmaids sit elsewhere (groomsmen are uncommon). But I know it’s different elsewhere.
Post # 9
@ladyartichoke: cool! did not know that, and my dad is British so, probably good to know! thanks
Post # 10
Never seen parents sit at the head table, even if they are hosting. Just make sure they are nearby and you’ll be fine.
As for the MOH thing, I have two as well so I am just picking my best friend since the rest of my bridal party is family and they all know each other.
Post # 11
We had a sweetheart table (just us!), sat parents together with grandparents and pastor, then let our MOH and BM sit with their dates and friends.
Post # 12
I was going to say that in the UK the parents are almost always at the head table, but ladyartichoke beat me to it!
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
I think we’re planning on having a ‘sweet heart’ table with just us, then having a groomsmen/bridesmaid table, and then a parents/grandparents table. (:
Post # 14
@mayflowerbride13: No problem! 🙂 Does he expect to sit with you? The traditional UK layout is (left to right) MOH, FOG, MOB, GROOM, BRIDE, FOB, MOG, BM. Also only the groom, FOB, and best man give speeches at UK weddings traditionally. I actually don’t mind though since I hate public speaking. There’s loads of weird rules about who toasts who too. Sorry, I’m rambling now…
Post # 15
@ladyartichoke: This. We had us, our parents and the koumbaros (Best Man) only.
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