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I am most definitely having a Sweetheart Table (just for FI and I) and having satellite tables close to us for our parents, immediate family, and the Bridal Party. I don't like the look of being "on display" and having the Bridal Party not be able to sit with their SO. I have never liked it being in weddings and vowed not to repeat it for my day. What are your views? How are you seating your party?
I feel exactly the same way. I actually think its really inconsiderate to insist that the bridal party sit with you and without their guests. I don't mean to offend anyone if that's what you're doing! I just know that there have been weddings where the guest of someone in the bridal party doesn't know a soul and they're forced to sit alone at a table full of strangers. It's not fun!
Yes, I didn't go to a wedding that my FI was in to avoid that. He has been to two with me and I hated it.
We did a head table with our parents, wedding party and SOs. It was important to both the hubs and I have that dinner hour at an intimate table and really reflect on the day and take it all in. It was a long rectangular table and it seated 16 people total. It was perfect for us because we were all family (even the SOs are like family), and everyone loved it.
BUT, I totally get why some couples choose the sweetheart table. For us, it wasn't the right choice, but for some people, it's toatlly worth it.
I voted for a head table because it just looks more fancy and traditional, but a sweet heart table is cool too. A lot of my people in my wedding party have significant others who will not be in the wedding... So I see your point about having them separated from their so and so.... My mind is still set on having a head table. Just more fancy.
I think our first meal together is pretty special, so I want it to be just the two of us at the table. Plus I'd like the chance to TALK to each other. It seems like so many brides and grooms always comment after the wedding that they barely saw each other all night and I'm determined to not let that happen!
Plus I've found with head tables you can't talk to anyone other than whoever is immediately beside you. It's kind of anti-social and I agree, I don't like feeling like I'm on display.
I'm not sure what we're going to do. FI is really into the idea of non-assigned seating. Me, I LOVE the idea of it but am afraid it's an awkward disaster waiting to happen. But it would solve the whole problem of where we sit (or, rather, give us the same awkwardness everyone else has). If we do assign, it won't be either. I don't think a sweetheart table is for us, and a fancy head table is definitely not.
we originally wanted to have a round table with my bridal party and their dates and us, because i also don't agree with not being able to have bridal party seperated from their dates and i don't want to be on display, but we have one too many people for that so we're going to end up with a sweet heart table.
Entangled, so are you thinking of just having circular seats eveywhere and just choosing one to sit at with some of the guests?
I was the same way - we did a sweetheart table, tables near us for our parents and bridal party tables across from us. I was in a wedding where they did a head table and I was away from my DH. Thankfully he knew 2 other people at his table, otherwise he wouldnt have known anyone!
We're doing neither. We definitely weren't going to split up the wedding party and their SOs, but I don't really want to sit in a table for 2 either. We'll be at one of our long tables w/ whatever family/friends fit.
I think we are doing a sweethearts table. My other thought is a "VIP" table, for a lack of a better word. It would be us, and maybe our parents and my siblings (they are single and without family where as the Mister's siblings are all married with kids). But I'm not 100% sold on that idea yet.
We're doing a sweetheart table because honestly we won't be sitting long. So why worry about a head table- if the heads are going to be visiting everyone. That's our thought, but at some venues a head table can look really classy!
I am just having 4 reserved tables. The reserved tables will of course have place cards. We will be sitting with some of the bridal party and their SO and the rest of the bridal party (including SO) and immediate family will be sitting at the other reserved tables
We're doing a sweetheart table. We want to be able to have some time to ourselves not surrounded by everyone, and we want our wedding party to be able to sit wth their guests.
In the 8.5 years that DH and I have been together, he has been in 10 weddings!!! (In the next 2 years, he has been asked to be in 2 more!) Anyway, my point is that I have attended a LOT of weddings by myself because every single one of them had the wedding party sit at the head table without their dates. Frankly, IT SUCKS!
So, for my wedding we had a head table (because we wanted to sit with all our best friends) but their dates sat with us. That was something I was absolutely adamant about while planning my wedding.
So, I voted: Head Table - but maybe I should have voted : Other
My dad hates sweetheart tables (one of the few opinions he has voiced about weddings) so that was out.
We considered having our BP + their SOs sit at the head table with us, but that's 18 people total! So we are just doing us + BP. Their dates are all grown ups and can handle being apart from their SOs for an hour of dinner.
I have a real problem with head tables. I've been on both sides of it - in the bridal party and not sitting with my date, and being a date of one of the groomsman. I hated it. We're definitely doing a sweetheart table. Plus I think they look cute.
I voted for sweetheart table because that's what I really, really want. I don't like the idea of separating the bridal party from their guests.
However. (Ugh, I hate this "however.") Because of the way our venue is set up, we might HAVE to do a head table of some sort. Maybe I'll force our parents up there instead of the bridal party though. I know the parents don't want to sit on display but too bad.
I really wanted to sit with my pals at a regular round table - but FI didn't want to make anyone feel slighted (like we picked our 'favorite' people to sit with) - so, sweetheart table for us!
I am so confused on this topic. I really don't want a sweetheart table. I'll feel odd if it just us. FI and I are always surrounded by people and are not the ones to be sitting alone, especially at our wedding. With that being said, I don't want my bridal party and or their dates to be affected by having a head table.
We are doing head tables. They are going to be long rectangluar tables and we will be at the head of the table on a sweetheart bench. I have never seen this before, but my wedding planner designed it and it looked beautiful! But we haven't discussed who will be sitting there yet.
@roxy - if you want them to be at the head table with you you should go ahead and do it! All of our bridal party's guests know each other and will sit at a table together. We are doing sweetheart head table combo - with a sweetheart in the middle and two rectangle tables on either side angling forward for the bridal party!
We are not doing a head table or a sweetheart table. We are having twelve person square tables for all of our guests. We will be sitting at one in the middle (sort of) of all the other tables with our bridal party (and their dates) either at our table or the ones adjacent to us. I can't stand the thought of "being on display" or seperating my bridal party from their dates. Our wedding planner came up with the table arrangement as a solution to our concerns.
We'll be doing a head table. Future hubs and I decided it would be symbolic of the union of our families. Also, my hubby to be is from Holland and he and his dad are very close and after the wedding he will be living in the states so it was very important to me that they get to spend as much time as possible together during the wedding. I know its technically my day, but I think in the end we will have sweeter memories in sharing it with our families. As far as the SO in the bridal party, they aren't children and can manage to eat alone for an hour. After dinner we plan on having a lounge area in the back where people can mingle so I don't think its so horrific if they are apart for this brief period.
we'll have a table together, but allow the bridal party to sit with their SO's. I think it's silly to have a table made up of just the bridal party. But that's my opinion!
If we were having a sit-down dinner we would have gone with a sweetheart table. We don't like being on display much so we would have just tucked ourselves into the centre of the room and everyone could see us if they wanted but we wouldn't be on a "podium" so to speak. As it is we're having a cocktail and canapé reception so it doesn't matter!
Head table. Sweetheart tables aren't that common around here actually. When my FI and I first started dating, he was in a wedding and I went as his date. I sat at a table with a girl I didn't know, and she ended up becoming one of my best friends and is now one of my bridesmaids :)
IMHO, sitting away from your SO or date during dinner isn't a huge deal. It's only for an hour or less. A lot of my bridesmaids and FI's groomsmen aren't in serious relationships. If they do bring a date, all the dates will be seated together with other people their age so they can at least have something in common :) I like the look of the sweetheart table, but everyone in our wedding is friends with each other. It'd be weird for us all not to sit together!
I dont know for sure if we are doing assigned seating yet but if we did we would do a sweetheart table.
We're doing a modified head table where it will be my two Maids of Honor and their SO's and the Best man and his SO. The rest of the wedding party will be right next to us at tables where they can sit with their SO's as well. We didn't want a sweetheart because we don't want to be on display while we eat (hopefully we actually do!).
Neither. The boy and I are just going to sit at a regular round table with our siblings and their partners.
My bro's wedding - I was on the end of the head table with one of my SIL's besties next to me who I didn't know at all and it was so awkward! My BF, NOW FI, was stuck at a table with my parents and relatives and that was SO awkward for him, as it was his first time to meet the "relatives."
We're doing a sweetheart table, and then letting families and couples sit together. After all, it is about family... and I feel kinda selfish saying that to celebrate my new family, you can't be with yours. Plus, it's the only down time in a wedding day and I want to just be able to.. be.
Sweetheart table! The catering director recommended it and said it's becoming quite popular. He explained (as many of you stated) that many hate being seperated from their guests (with head tables) and I liked the idea of my honey and I sitting together for our first meal and "taking it all in" before the party starts!! I think it'll be awesome!
we didn't want our bridal party to be separated from their guests, so we are doing head table with our parents only, and 2 satellite tables with our siblings, their family/guest (my sister is married with kids, his brother is just dating someone), and the rest of the bridal party with their SOs.
Dunno. If we have a backyard reception, there's a gazebo smack in the middle of the yard we would have to use somehow. We'd probably use it for a sweetheart table and have farm-style seating around the gazebo. It would be nice to have a little space for us to talk and watch during the reception, but I don't want to feel seperated from guests either. Who knows!
No seating for us, we are doing a strolling tapas event with a mixture of table and lounge seating, indoor and outdoor.
We're debating right now, as our venue can only accommodate a head table that seats 8. We have 7 attendants, plus us, so we're over. I didn't like the idea of making people sit away from their dates, so we're thinking of sitting at a regular round table with our parents and grandma's.
I hate to say it but to I was pretty bummed at the one wedding I went to where Mr TM was a groomsmen and there was a head table bc I wanted to sit with him and it was really awkward to be bouncing back and forth between the two tables and not having a seat, definitely made the experience not anywhere near as fun...We'll be at a table with our siblings and my MOH and their dates so that our BP can sit with their SO's/dates...
I think that we are gonna have the wedding party plus their dates...I have seen a really akward situation where the date of one of the people in the wedding party didnt know anyone and just sat around akwardly by himself...since I will have a good mix of fam and friends it is possible that there is a SO of someone that no one knows.
def. sweetheart. all of our bridal party are from different parts of our lives and some of them have never even met - we want them to be comfortable with their friends and family around them! and our venue also mentioned that when the bride and groom are at a central location it's easier for people to come and see you when you are sitting.
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