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If your party isn't too big, this would be nice for them.
I figure it would make it easier for those bridal party members who are out of state that do bring a significant, it would be easier for them to mingle if they might be a little more shy. Make things less ackward for them.
That's called a King's Table and I think it's a great idea if your party is not too large.
I think that's a great idea. It stinks to be separated from your date/SO because on person is at the head table.
I am all for a head table having your WP's significant others, like you said it keeps things less awkward & more enjoyable for your WP & their dates :)
My friend did this and it was lovely! our table wasn't big enough to seat 20 people with their SO's but i wish we could have!
That's what we're doing! We're not putting everyone at one table (we have 16 in the wedding party) but are seating everyone with their SOs. I think it's a great idea and definitely more comfortable for everyone.
It's a GREAT idea! My FI has been in three weddings during the time we've been together, and twice the head table was separate, and once they did a head table with the wedding party and all their dates. It was awesome, I so appreciated it. We're definitely doing the same thing. It's so much nicer. I've always thought it was a bummer that the people who spent so much money/effort to be in the wedding were separate from people they wanted to spend time with.
The wedding we were at w/ a combined head table had 5 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen and all their dates- sure it was a big table, but not at all weird or too large, I think.
Until I got engaged I never even knew couples were separated at the head table! My FH really really wanted to do this at our wedding and I was totally against it. I thought it would be so awkward and uncomfortable for our wedding party and their SO's to be separated - some SO's would just be 'dates' for the wedding not knowing anyone else and others are married couples. Just my opinion, but I'm sure in a lot of situations it ends up working out.
sounds good! personally, i hate head tables with the bridal party's dates sitting elsewhere. Especially when the wedding party sits facing the group, with no one across from them. it's like they're on a stage eating. super awkward, and the group's always hurrying thru dinner to go be with their date who's in the corner, near the DJ and speakers.
Great idea! I personally find it really awkward and almost rude when the bridal party is off sitting at their "special exclusive table" and their significant others/wives/husbands/dates have to go sit by themselves. Even if they know people at their table, it still causes hurt feelings. What a good bride you are! :)
I definitely want to have our bridal party and their SO's at the head table too! It seems unfair to seat the SO's out there on their own, especially since some of them won't be close friends with any of the other guests. I'm still trying to figure out the configuration of the head table though. We will potentially have up to 18 ppl plus the 2 and a half year old son of one of the groomsmen all at the table. I thought of having a rectangular table with the bridal party facing their dates, but my fiance and I will face out towards the room w/ nobody across from us. Does this sound weird?
I HATE head tables exactly because it separates wedding party members from their SOs and I'm doing a Sweetheart Table for this reason, but if you've got room to do the King's Table (I don't or I might have considered it) then definitely do that.
I think it's a great idea...my fiance is in a wedding this weekend, and I'll be stranded at dinner, so I think it's really considerate of your wedding party and their dates.
I think that's very considerate of you towards your party and a great idea! We're probably going to split up the wedding party since for me, it was imperative that all people in the bridal party be seated with their SO, if they had one. Where's the fun in going to a wedding and then sitting by yourself? We're having round tables that fit 10, so the party will be split into two tables, more or less nearby...Should be fine, I'm most concerned that everyone be happy and comfortable with whom they're sitting with so sitting next to the SO was a must!
We did all the bridesmaids and their SO's at one table on our left, all the Groomsmen and their dates at a table on our right, then me and hubby, MOH and SO and Best Man and SO at "head table."
In retrospect, it probably would have been better to just have a sweetheart table because we were so very rarely at the table, my MOH and her SO were dancing machines, so Best Man and his date (who knew NO ONE) were stuck alone at our table alot.
We thought about doing the King Table thing, but our party was a bit too big.
The other thing that is so awkward about head tables is that 1) you're facing the "audience" and it's like you're on display. That is easy to get over, but 2) you really can only can to the person to your left and right. I've felt bad the multiple times my FI has been stuck at a separate table with no one he knows.
In my brothers wedding I was at the head table, but towards the end. It sucks that even as we were all sitting up there "together" I could not even talk to him.
I think we are going to a have one big long table in the middle of our reception. And then all the round tables will be scattered around us. That way we can sit next to and across from our wedding party. It will be like one bug family dinner where we can all hang out and talk. Plus guests will feel like we are amongst them. We can talk with people all around us.
We are definitely including all significant others. That gives us like 20ish people at the head table but it's all the people we love the most, and those they love the most! The catering coordinator's eyes bugged out when we told her we wanted everyone, but she got over it once we explained. We just have to use 3 tables-one small round and 2 big rectangles.
On a personal note: I went to a wedding where I knew only a few people (all in the bridal party) and I had to sit away from my boyfriend at a table with people I didn't know. It sucked and we actually broke up after that. So I vowed never to put anyone else in that situation!
@ shesgotchuzpah- We liked this way so we don't have to feel so on display! I don't like the idea of everyone staring at me while i'm chowing down or balling during speeches. Obviously a bit of this is expected but our crew is cute, people shoud stare at them too!!!!!!! LOL!
sorry to those that have had head tables ... but they are just cruel.
Usually dates do not know each other well and then they are forced to awkwardly talk when all the while the dates know they just want to be sitting with their significant other!! Can you tell I've been to too many weddings done this way?
Also, I think you only have the option of speaking to the person on your left and right and then you are sort of staring out into the sea of people clinging their glasses for kisses. Just not my style.
We're doing this with my wedding party -- it's a small 'core' wedding party, so we're having a round table of 8 for bridesmaids, the best man, and their partners. My bridesmaid was really please when I told her we were doing this -- I agree that it's awful for the other person not to get to sit with their SO at the wedding if they don't know other people too well.
I definitley like this idea and we're doing it too! I'm in a wedding soon where she's not doing it, my poor fi will be stuck at a table with other boyfriends and husbands.... and vendors. i haven't told him this yet because i know he'll be pissed, i think that's so rude!
I would definitely prefer that. My FSIL did something similar at her wedding and we all appreciated being able to sit with our SO's. She had a groomsmen table and a bm table and sat dates with each. Her head table just had them and best man and moh and their dates.
We couldn't get a table big enough but we asked people in our wedding party and they said sit us wherever, we'd rather sit with our SO. So we had a mix at our head table, people came from far (like another country) so some of them were mixed in with us and my roommates who weren't BM but I never get to see anymore.
We're doing the SOs at our head table, too. I think it's a nice gesture if your party isn't too big.
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My Fiance and I have the idea of seating not only our wedding party with us for the reception, but they are allowed to have a significant other sit with us as well. We would do a large rectangle table so we can all face eachother and my fiance and I at the Head of the table. The flower girls and Ring Bearer would be with their families.
What are your ideas?