(Closed) headcount

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2208 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

id just leave it be.  Most venues do this – once the final count is in, its in and billable whether or not tese people show up.  If you invite them 2 weeks before it will be pretty obvious that they are seat fillers

Post # 4
406 posts
Helper bee

You could probably have your caterer pack up the extra food for you (or one of your guests) to take home. I think it would be a little inconsiderate to invite someone 2 weeks before your wedding – they’ll know it’s just to fill an empty spot.
That’s just my $.02 though.

Post # 5
611 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I wouldn’t want to invite people to our wedding solely for the sake of filling seats. Just pay for the 2 extra people. Invite your vendors (coordinator? photographer) to be seated with you guys if they’re not already. Or just pack up the food and bring them back home or send it to the homeless shelter.

Post # 6
446 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2007

I would also just chalk it up as a loss. Things like this unfortunately happen. I also had about 6 people not show up to our wedding, and we didn’t find out beforehand. It’s definitely unavoidable sometimes, and I wouldn’t ask anyone last minute. Feeling like a seat filler isn’t fun…

Post # 7
6010 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Honestly?  I would just eat the cost of the two extra people (unless it was like $500) instead of inviting new people.  The truth is, that sometimes people show up when they said they wouldn’t, or show up with an extra person.  I think it’s better to be a little overprepared than have every single seat filled and have extra guests you can’t accomodate.  Not to mention that anyone you invite at this point might be insulted that they weren’t on the original guestlist.

We paid for … I think 3 extra meals at our reception.  We just had the caterer box the food up for us.  We froze our extra meals and ate them when we got home from the honyemoon.  Unless the price per person is really high, I would just leave those two extra seats unfilled.

Post # 8
2682 posts
Sugar bee

I agree with most people and would let it be.  Unless I knew the person and the situation I would be offened if someone asked me 2 weeks before the wedding.  Or see if you have add another hors d’ oeuvre or up the bar bill to make up for the cost.

Post # 9
291 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Was there anyone on your list you didn’t invite with a date? Maybe you could let them know you have space if they wanted to bring a boyfriend or girlfriend?

Post # 10
310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I think this is one of those things that happen — like the other bees have said. Inviting vendors to have a meal is a wonderful idea. Checking about boxing up food to go is a good idea too. However, I know a lot of venues (mine included) will not let you take leftovers and will not donate leftovers. If the food were to make anyone sick off the premise they don’t want to be held responsible.

Post # 11
84 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

All the other answers seem great, I would either ask someone that didn’t have a plus one if they wanted to bring someone or I would just leave it alone.  I’ve been invited to a wedding a week before and I was a little offended because I knew I was a last minute guest.

Post # 13
123 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’d just chalk it up as well and count yourself lucky if it’s just two.  We had 8 people not show the day of the wedding that RSVP’d yes, which was 10% of our guest list.  I think this is one of those things that just happens unfortunately.

My Mom just got a last min invite to an old friends daughter’s wedding.  She went, but said it felt very strange to her.

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