Post # 1
AHHH my final headcount was due yesterday and i gave it to the place on friday and now i ran into a problem. I got a call from my future mother in law and she got a call from her niece saying that they have to go out of state because of a death in the family. I called the place i am getting married at to minus 2 people and they said sorry cant do that. Im like ahhhhh now what i am going to do, im paying for 2 extra plates and chairs and have no idea who to ask. My fiancee does have friends at work but they dont know anybody that is going to be at the wedding. One of his friends i dont really know if i want there. THe reason being is she has the hots for my fiancee and wants him and wishes he wasnt getting married. To make a long story short lets just say she is not the type of girl to trust after viewing how she is around married guys. I dont know if i really want her at the ceremony when they ask who objects to this marriage lol. I dont know what to do, i know it seems kind of rude to ask someone 2 weeks before your wedding if they would come. My fiancee already told me that he didnt want to invite friends from work but i dont know he might change his mind.
Post # 3
id just leave it be. Most venues do this – once the final count is in, its in and billable whether or not tese people show up. If you invite them 2 weeks before it will be pretty obvious that they are seat fillers
Post # 4
You could probably have your caterer pack up the extra food for you (or one of your guests) to take home. I think it would be a little inconsiderate to invite someone 2 weeks before your wedding – they’ll know it’s just to fill an empty spot.
That’s just my $.02 though.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t want to invite people to our wedding solely for the sake of filling seats. Just pay for the 2 extra people. Invite your vendors (coordinator? photographer) to be seated with you guys if they’re not already. Or just pack up the food and bring them back home or send it to the homeless shelter.
Post # 6
I would also just chalk it up as a loss. Things like this unfortunately happen. I also had about 6 people not show up to our wedding, and we didn’t find out beforehand. It’s definitely unavoidable sometimes, and I wouldn’t ask anyone last minute. Feeling like a seat filler isn’t fun…
Post # 7
Honestly? I would just eat the cost of the two extra people (unless it was like $500) instead of inviting new people. The truth is, that sometimes people show up when they said they wouldn’t, or show up with an extra person. I think it’s better to be a little overprepared than have every single seat filled and have extra guests you can’t accomodate. Not to mention that anyone you invite at this point might be insulted that they weren’t on the original guestlist.
We paid for … I think 3 extra meals at our reception. We just had the caterer box the food up for us. We froze our extra meals and ate them when we got home from the honyemoon. Unless the price per person is really high, I would just leave those two extra seats unfilled.
Post # 8
I agree with most people and would let it be. Unless I knew the person and the situation I would be offened if someone asked me 2 weeks before the wedding. Or see if you have add another hors d’ oeuvre or up the bar bill to make up for the cost.
Post # 9
Was there anyone on your list you didn’t invite with a date? Maybe you could let them know you have space if they wanted to bring a boyfriend or girlfriend?
Post # 10
I think this is one of those things that happen — like the other bees have said. Inviting vendors to have a meal is a wonderful idea. Checking about boxing up food to go is a good idea too. However, I know a lot of venues (mine included) will not let you take leftovers and will not donate leftovers. If the food were to make anyone sick off the premise they don’t want to be held responsible.
Post # 11
All the other answers seem great, I would either ask someone that didn’t have a plus one if they wanted to bring someone or I would just leave it alone. I’ve been invited to a wedding a week before and I was a little offended because I knew I was a last minute guest.
Post # 12
the place we are getting married at they ahve in the contract that we can not take any food home. So we will see what happens. My finacee invited a friend then when he found out the head count he said sorry the list is 2 big. Im letting him handle it. I dont want someone at the castle eating my food that i paid for and i cant take it home.
Post # 13
I’d just chalk it up as well and count yourself lucky if it’s just two. We had 8 people not show the day of the wedding that RSVP’d yes, which was 10% of our guest list. I think this is one of those things that just happens unfortunately.
My Mom just got a last min invite to an old friends daughter’s wedding. She went, but said it felt very strange to her.