(Closed) Heartbreaking attempt to get bridesmaids dresses

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
7312 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

You are the one suffering????????? Have you listened to yourself?

Post # 4
2179 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

What is heartbreaking? The fact that your sister can’t try in dresses in her size? Will your salon not order or try to obtain a sample for her? 

Post # 5
309 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My sister is a bigger girl as well and another one of my bridesmaids will be 8 months pregnant when I get married. I am letting them pick their own dresses so they can be as comfortable as possible. Please keep in mind that your sister’s embarrassment and disappointment is not to PUNISH you! You are not suffering because of this, she is. Be kind, she is trying. I can’t imagine being in her shoes.

Post # 6
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Why not go to David’s Bridal or AA just to try on dresses? She could figure out what style she likes, then order a similar one from Jenny Yoo. 

Post # 7
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Seriously please get a grip. Child hunger is heartbreaking, violence against women is heartbreaking, cancer is heartbreaking, people loosing their houses again heartbreaking.

I think it freaking sucks for your sister and other women that this store doesn’t have a size fourteen which I think is a common size now a days.  I don’t know if your sister is hurting but it sounds like she is ready to be done with dress shopping. Ask them if the dress can be let out a bit and if it can get it. Second find a store with normal sizes and get a her a dress.

Third keep things in perspective your sister sounds like she being great and doing her job as a bridesmaid. I don’t know what you think you are suffering from, talk about first world problems jeez!


Post # 8
12250 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

That stinks! But I’m assuming she’s bought clothes online before? That’s buying blind! If she likes the dress, order it! I’m SURE it will fit her… Even if it’s close, there’s SO much shapewear out there!

Post # 9
349 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

As stressful as it may be looking for a dress to fit both figures.. Think of how embarasing it is for your sister to not be able to fit in a standard store dress..

One option is to take photos of the dress and colour you like, or find photos online, and have the dresses made? That way you can get the exact colour you’re after, and could even have the dresses made in the same material but slightly different styles to flatter each bridesmaids shape?

Post # 11
750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Ouch, I feel like people are taking what you’re saying completely the wrong way. Jeez, guys, try to be nice.

I think I understand what you mean. It would be devestating for me, if I couldn’t try on a dress because of my size…and if it were my sister in that position, I’d be devestated too! I don’t think you mean that she’s blaming you and making you suffer, more that you feel bad about the situation and don’t know what to do…right? 

I think you’re doing everything you can do to help her through the process of buying a dress. Have you thought about looking online (etsy, modcloth, etc) for dresses off the rack for your bridesmaids? The return policies may be a little more forgiving, and you can still have alterations made by a seamstress if needed.

Post # 13
1008 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Ouch…. be nice

Post # 14
8463 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@HorseDoc:  Why not let your sister pick the store?  Or better yet, let her wear a dress she already owns?  I think if you just give her guildines (i.e. tea length, purple, etc) and let her pick her own dress, things might go a little more smoothly.  Best of luck!

Post # 15
1008 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

My post, posted without me…

Anyways, i can see why you said heartbreaking… planning a wedding is thought to be fun and bring people closer, yadda yadda…. i found it to be stressful.

I second letting them pick their own dresses. You will never make everyone happy. My girls told me they wanted tea legnth, non sleevless, certain fabric etc. I got them their wish and they still all hated it. My colors were pink and ivory and one girl wore a bright blue wrap the whole time….

How many girls are in the wedding party?

Post # 16
135 posts
Blushing bee

@HorseDoc:  Sorry you felt attacked. I have a friend on the plus side and it’s hearbreaking when she loves a top or pants and they don’t fit her. She is probably blaming you because she is embarrased, angry, and sad that she can’t try on the dresses. 

I don’t have a better suggestion than the other Bees other than to try again and let her pick a dress. Maybe you can do the different style but same color family for your bridesmaids.

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