Post # 1
I’m so heartbroken at the thought of my wedding. I don’t want to sound like a selfish brat, I know I’m marrying my best friend. That should be enough.
We are currently in a long distance relationship. He’s in the USA I’m in the UK. I have been saving like crazy every penny I earn to pay for me to move there, and the wedding which will follow 2 months later. My parents can’t even contribute a penny so there’s a lot of pressure on me and I’m really feeling it. My finances parents could really help out, but they aren’t.
Because of lack of money, no one from my family will be attending the wedding. We can’t afford a reception so we are ‘eloping’. I just feel sadder and sadder every time I think about it. There will be no bridal party or bachelorette party. No one to help me get ready in the morning. I will be in my dress for around an hour im guessing, then after the vows it’ll just be a normal day.
I just feel like I have to compromise on everything I ever wanted and it hurts so much.
Post # 3
first of all ((hugs))
Now with you eloping cann you save for a bigger wedding down the road? Maybe after the elopment you can go out to a nice dinner and maybe stay the night at a hotel, make it alittle special for you. Elopments can be hard if you pictured a bigger day for your wedding just remeber your marring your best friend and 2 you can always have the big wedding later down the road:) I hope this helps and you start to feel a little better.
Post # 4
It won’t just be a normal day! It’s a day where you get to cement your relationship and permanently remain in the US! No more leaving each other at the airport! No more tearful goodbyes!
You may not have a dream wedding, but you are getting married, so get excited about that! And besides, even if you are eloping, you can still make it a full affair. Get all dressed up and head to the courthouse. Have an awesome lunch out afterwards and have a few drinks. Take a nice walk through a park or some area you two love to visit. Have a picnic. There is a lot you can do to make the day special.
And if finances allow it down the road, throw a big party later on to celebrate your marriage. But hey, even if that never happens, you’re still married and able to live with the one you love.
I’m American, and my FI is English. I know the painful goodbyes exhanged at the airport. I’m so excited to never do that again. Try to focus on those aspects.
Post # 5
Thank you 🙂 we are probably getting married in his hometown. So it’s not REALLY eloping, more like getting married and not inviting anyone 😛