- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
Hi everyone, I am feeling so saddened by events this past Sunday that I feel I need to just get this out.
Yesterday I threw a surprise wedding shower for my younger sister. I live in a condo in the downtown of a large city and was unsure of having at my place owing to size, parking etc, but as my mother has been seriously ill for majority of the year, I didn’t want to host it at their house in the suburbs as she would likely try to undertake all the work.
Anyways, I set out invites, everyone RSVP’d yes (total of 17 people), some even followed up with a call confirming their attendance etc. I am not currently employed but planned a very nice shower with the help of my own fiance and best friend. I made it really special and put so much effort into it.
Fast forward to yesterday, the day of the shower. My parents arrive at 1230 with my sister, who has no idea. She thinks its a party I am throwing for me and my fiance’s friends to celebrate our engagement. Im expecting everyone to arrive at 1pm. Between 115-130 I get calls from about half of the invitees saying they are ‘sick, stayed out too late the night before, etc’. One family was supposed to provide a ride to another, and they bailed as well, so that now leaves me with a possible guest count of 6. One person showed up on time. Two others came almost two hours after the start time.
I had done so much decorating, bought SO much food, made so much stuff, I was so upset. To make it worse, my sister got to know it was for her and realized that all these people were no-shows and it makes me so sad. She grew up having barely any friends and often celebrated birthdays alone ( just family, no friends) and here it is like history repeating itself.
These people invited were family friends of my parents, my sister and I. All considered close. I understand that things come up, illness, etc, but to call and back out after the ‘party’ has started or not call at all after CONFIRMING attendance???
I am so hurt. I just wanted this to be special for her as she always says that “I” am so lucky to have friends etc and that she wishes she had stuff like that as well….and then this happens.
Please exuse the length and if im rambling. I am just so upset and heartbroken by this as all I can envision from yesterday is her face at the realization of all this and her trying to smile through tears. I feel I just created a whole sad mess.