Heartbroken by everyone bailing on surprise bridal shower.

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
231 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

That is really crappy. I am sure it was not a reflection on you, but wow is that sad. I am sure your sister appreciated the effort.

Post # 4
1362 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

That is so sad.  I feel sad for you and your sister.  🙁

Post # 5
1258 posts
Bumble bee

I’m really sorry that happened to your sister and to you, who did all the hard work decorating and making food and planning a beautiful celebration for your sister. Unfortunately, I think showers both bridal and baby, tend to have a lot of rsvps that are a yes and people back out closer to it. It really sucks, but I hope your sister realizes how much you love her and did all this work for her. You are a great sister! 

I know there was a ton of snowfall this weekend, so maybe a lot of people actually backed out due to the weather/driving conditions. Even though yesterday wasn’t actually that bad. I’m about an hour east of where you are so it was a bit crappier my way. But still…not THAT bad that I wouldn’t have made the effort to get there on time! 

Post # 6
610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@icontoronto:  I am very sorry for the way the day turned out for you and your sister. However, maybe this might bring you closer together as sisters. If I had an older sister who put all of that work into something for me, I would be so grateful. Just remind your sister how much you love her and if you’re there for her wedding planning process, I’m sure she will still feel loved. (Still, those guests were rude, I’m sorry.)

Post # 7
2571 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I had three people show up over an hour late for my shower… It kind of irked me but I was happy they at least made the effort to show up.

I’m sorry that happened to you and your sister…

Post # 8
11469 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@icontoronto:  What a let down! I am really sorry that happened. While of course illness and what not happens it seems unlikely or just bad luck that all those guests happened to have issues at the same time. How disappointing!

Maybe you and your sister could do a spa day or something special to really make her feel important? You know a day with just the two of you?

Post # 9
1881 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@icontoronto:  That is so sad, I’m so sorry for your sister. I hope she at least appreciated what you did for her.

Post # 10
1162 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@icontoronto:  I just got so sad reading this. *Hugs* If anything else, remember you are an amazing sister. You clearly showed how much you care about her with all the work you put into it. Try to forgive the others so you can let go of the anger for yourself to relax. 

Post # 11
1080 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@icontoronto:  People are so rude! That is so sad and I’m so sorry that happened. I find it especially rude that they called after they were supposed to be there.

Post # 12
11598 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m so sorry this happened.  I hope your sister knows how lucky she is to have a sister who cares like this for her, though.  Those people who bailed don’t matter nearly as much as knowing your family loves and supports you!

Post # 13
227 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@icontoronto:  That’s pretty awful.. if your name indicates your city yes it did snow on the weekend but I was out on Saturday and Sunday and it really wasn’t that bad so that’s a pretty lame excuse. 

Post # 14
274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

So sorry to hear this!  People are AWFUL these days about stuff like this.  If it makes you feel any better, last week, literally HALF of the guests to my birthday party bailed about 5 minutes before the party was set to start.  And this was after I had chosen a date and time based on their input a week in advance.  I also had several family members 2 hours late to my bridal shower this past summer, when it only lasted 2 hours.  It’s sad but true, people’s word means nothing these days…sorry it affected your sister’s shower 🙁

Post # 15
845 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@icontoronto:  If I threw a shower for my little sister and everyone bailed I’d flip out. As an older sister I can understand how you feel. Staying out too late is the worst excuse ever! I drank a bunch with FI and friends a few weeks ago and still woke up early to attend FSIL’s Pampered Chef party, because I said I would and it mattered to her. It’s incredibly rude that so many people cancelled and if I were you I wouldn’t hesitate in telling them how the party turned out and how sad your sister was.

Post # 16
5905 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@icontoronto:  …oh boy.  Well, its the holidays, 2013 was a bitch of a year and I think people are just unraveling…a little bit….its really too bad, and while I wouldn’t put much stock in a few no shows, the mass exodus throws this situation into another realm…I would not hesistate to let each and every one of your Sally No Shows and Holly Hangovers know just how very poorly this surprise shower was attended, how very hurt and upset you are not to mention to massive blow it was to your sister’s feelings…and that you are anxious to hear what solution they have for this problem…which they created just in time for Christmas…thanks a lot for that, by the way.

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