Post # 1
One of my best friends just celebrated her 3rd anniversary this year. Her and her husband have been together for almost 10 years and have a few kids. I love them both. I consider both her and her husband to be family. The problem is that they are having serious issues in their marriage.
I have talked to her about counseling and the options that they have. I know that he is not the easiest person to get along with sometimes, so talking to him isn’t easy. They have both done things to hurt the relationship and they are trying to move past the issues, but it’s not a simple thing to do. She told me today that she doesn’t know how much more she can take. I live so far away from her now and I feel completely helpless. I wish there was something i could do for her. I wish I could fix everything for them. I know that there isn’t anything for me to do, but I hate thinking of two people I love so much being so unhappy. I just want to give them both a hug and make it better.
They are coming to my wedding, I have thought of telling her not to worry about coming, that she has so much going on I would understand if she didn’t come, but I know she would never miss my wedding.
I’m not really looking for advice, I just can’t tell anyone except the anonymous internet I guess. It you read this, and it made any sense, thank you.
Post # 3
@serendipity9.8: I read it.
I think it is natural and very very sweet of you to feel so badly for her. However, you really can’t solve the issue for her. Do you ever have that friend who you told over and over not to date ‘that guy’ and she did anyway? It doesn’t matter what you say sweetie, she will do what she wants. Maybe a night out at your wedding is just what she needs.
Post # 4
@serendipity9.8: I totally understand how you feel and its completely normal. Just be there for her when she needs you. Maybe them coming to your wedding will remind them of theirs and how much they love each other? Just be there for her, that is all you can do. please try not ot get involved, that cant end well. your wedding is soon! yay!
Post # 5
Youre sweet and so caring, she’s lucky to have you no matter how far away you might be.
I think maybe the wedding will do them good. Romance, vows, dressed up, no kids…
Post # 6
Thank you ladies. I’m really hoping that having some time alone together will help instead of hurt. I suggested maybe they can call a truce for the weekend, since they are both saying not so nice things to eachother, and that could help them caputure some of what they lost. It’s so easy to lose sight of what brought you together after so many years.
I hope that they can work things out, but if they can’t I just want them both to be happy.
Post # 7
Hope things work out for them so it benefits you all. You are such a caring friend.