Heartbroken/dress vent/etc.

posted 3 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
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162 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@ALAin2014:  Blerg I am so sorry! I have had struggles with my weight and when I first got engaged (3 years ago) I went out and bought a dress that I loved, then gained 25kgs. The dress didn’t fit, I ended up selling it because our wedding got pushed back, and back, and back, and even now that I’ve lost the weight I still struggle a lot to be motivated. 🙁

 

It sounds like you are self-sabotaging for some reason. All I can say is you do have enough time to lose weight, the rest of your life to work on things with a psychologist and the bee will support you! 😀

 

 

 

Post # 4
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953 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

i know how you feel about the frustration i have been there and heck i am still there. as for the dress i would say put in a corset back. this company http://www.laceeiscorset.com/  does corset kits which cost like $30 and your seamstress can put it in. i hope this can help you. I plan on putting a corset back into my dress if I end up keeping it. 

Post # 5
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3442 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@sangriiia:  I agree. Sometimes when you are worrying about weight, it can actually make you gain because you stress eat. At least, that is my problem.

 

@ALAin2014:  I private messaged you about what I did to lose weight when I didn’t have much time left. I hope it helps you as much as it did me!

Post # 6
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300 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I understand  I have been anywhere between 280s and 180’s my adult life.  I struggle too. 

Post # 7
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4827 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

@ALAin2014:  You can do it!! Food issues are incredibly difficult, I totally understand. Thikn of how much better you’ll feel when you start taking care of yourself!!

Post # 8
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332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - Sea Ranch Lodge

At 2 lbs per week, you can still lose about 14 lbs, which would probably allow you to fit into your dress splendidly. Instead of focusing on what you could have done, focus on the changes that you can start making NOW!

Maybe set a new goal? How about looking good for your honeymoon? Enlist your family, friends, and FI for support. You can do this!!!

Post # 10
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2319 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m sorry you’re going through this 🙁 I too have struggled with weight my whole life.

Post # 12
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5192 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Your roommate is right – you just have to do it.  You probably do have deeper issues…but right now you’ve got 3 months to your wedding which is PLENTY of time to drop a little weight.  Just do it now and worry about the deep seeded psychological issues after the wedding when you’ve got more time.

Getting more exercise is actually really likely to help you with whatever issues you’ve got going on.  Physical activity is great for anxiety/depression/self esteem problems.  It clears out the cob webs mucking up the space between your ears (that’s the scientific explination, I’m sure).

Post # 15
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42 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2015

@ALAin2014 I’ve been there too. I lost 60 pounds in about 4 months a few years back and I’ve kept it off, but before then (and even still now sometimes!) I felt just like you.

 The truth is, that the key to it is focusing on what you’re doing right, and to stop being so hard on yourself for the mistakes that you’ve made. Start fresh. Don’t think, “Oh, I’ve been so bad so just forget it now, I’m going to just sit and watch tv instead of running.” Focus on what makes you happy! Focus on what you are proud of! I’m not saying it’s easy, it’s totally not because you have to re-wire your brain to think about things in a totally different way, but you are not hopeless and you can just do it!

It’s really fun to brag about how many miles you’ve walked/jogged for the week. I love being able to say “Yeah I went ten miles!” No, it’s probably no big deal for someone who is used to running but for me it’s an accomplishment. Don’t compare yourself to people who have been at it for a while, it won’t help.

I lost an initial 20 pounds in two months by counting calories (with a cheat day Sunday, but still not over what I would burn normally; Monday-Saturday was 1200 and Sunday was 1800) and moderate exercise. I would exercise 3-5 days a week, alternating between using Jillian Michaels 30-day-shred and just taking walks outside. Bonus on the walks: They’re totally stress relieving! Good luck. You’re not a lost cause. You can do it!! Smile

Post # 16
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85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Try not to eat any carbs….no sugar…no soda …and walk an hour every day! Your dress will fit perfectly!!!! Do NOT PIG OUT!!! Eat until you are semi full…not super full to where you can’t move.

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