Post # 1
I’m the heaviest I’ve ever been rolling in at a size 22 wedding dress. I have been having complete ANXIETY about the way I will look on our wedding day and once every couple of weeks having terrible nightmares about the wedding (I show up with a horrible dress, no make up and falling out hair). It brings tears to my eyes knowing I’m so much bigger than my man (as his very cute, yet honest nephew pointed out).
I’m trying to be nice to myself about the increased weight, and dying to the dream of having the “look” that I want at a wedding.
Anyone have any tips on how to calm the anxiety?
Post # 3
Girl I feel you on this. We are the same size and I totally have the same kind of anxiety dreams although they are usually things i’ve forgotten (like book a photographer lol). It’s really hard to feel beautiful when everything in society tells us we are not but just remember that you are. Especially in the eyes of your SO! But in terms of feeling better I would say practice a lot of self care. Do things that make you happy, calm you down, center you. For me that means taking my dog to the dog park, cuddling with my Fiance, reading, etc. If gettign active makes you feel better do that! If taking bubble baths make you feel relaxed do that. And seek out pictures of all the AMAZINGLY beautiful full figured brides on here. I have never seen so many sexy curvy ladies in my LIFE! And that will be you on your wedding day. Hugs!
Post # 4
You are going to look beautiful on your wedding day! Remember, your fiance is marrying you because he loves you for you. Your beauty and self-worth are defined by who you are, not a size on a clothing tag. Accentuate your favorite features and radiate on your wedding day. Everything is going to be okay!
p.s. I’m a size 22 wedding gown too. I joke with everyone that god didn’t think it would be fair if I was pretty, smart, *and* skinny 😉
Post # 5
Is being full figured newer to you? I’ve been heavy my entire life so I’ve just gotten used to it and accepted it for the most part by now. For me, trying to lose a bunch of weight for one day just seems disingeuous. If you’re not happy with your current weight then you can try to lose some of it before the big day. You still have time. Cut down on carbs, eat only whole grain and whole weat breads/grains, increase veggie intake to 40% of what you eat, reduce sweets and fillers, cut out all drinks but water, tea, and coffee, reduce sodium. You can cut a lot of calories by reducing how much dairy you eat. You could even try eating vegan one or two days a week. You’ll feel like your starving for two weeks and then your body will adjust and you won’t be so hungry all the time.
If you don’t want to diet and lose weight then acceptance just comes with time. Realize that your fiance loves you like you are and that weight and physical looks are just a small part of who you are as a person.
Post # 6
You have 2 choices, accept it or do something about it. You have 4 months, thats a fair bit of time to drop some weight. I have 10 months and 1 week to goand I plan to be about 100 lighter by then.
Post # 7
I agree with the other gals, try to unstress anyway you can. You’re a beautiful person… how do I know? Someone else seen that and snatched you up!
Post # 8
Thanks for the advise! Truly is helping! I decided to go to the spa and get a haircut and just start actually getting dressed up again. I don’t think I even realized I had been slacking in the getting up and looking like a bombshell (I had surgery which made just getting out of bed difficult much less showering/doing my hair, rockin’ the make-up).
Thanks so much! What a great online community.
Post # 9
@LuLuLucky: I had the same dreams and I didn’t look as skinny as I wanted but everyone said I looked beautiful and I felt beautiful and so will you