Post # 1
Things have been pretty intense these past few weeks and I really can’t stress enough how much your guys’ support has meant to both of us. Whether it was on the boards or through a PM, every word has helped. And it looks like this roller coaster is coming to an end. HGC levels have continued to drop pretty dramatically and at this point it is beyond the point of recovery. The heartbeats have stopped and a D&C is scheduled for next week. The only explanation we have as for why all this happened the way it did is that I had gotten my shot either right before or right after we got pregnant and the hormones messed everything up. The worst part is… I don’t feel sad. I am angry that I don’t feel sad. I guess I just didn’t have time to bond with or really come to terms with the fact that I was pregnant. It all literally happened in the matter of 2 weeks that I found out, we realized there was a problem, and now we are seeing the end results of the problem. My Dr. think I only noticed something was off because something WAS off. But with the babies and not me. How I didn’t know I was even pregnant in the first place I will never know… I don’t really know what else to do or what else to say. I should feel sad. And maybe it wont hit me until later. Right now this whole thing has just left me… numb. I am trying to stay positive and I know that this is just one of the terribly unfortunate things that will happen in our life to make us stronger. So, thank you guys for your support. I know we will get through this.
Post # 4
🙁 oh honey, I’m soooo sorry to hear this. hugs to you.
Post # 5
As long as you have each other and are each others strenght you can get through everything. I wish I had something better to tell you but all I can give you are my best wishes and all my support. A huge hug to you.
Post # 6
I’m so sorry to hear this, Ms. Hedgehog. *HUGS*
And don’t be upset about your feelings. We can’t help how we feel and react to the events in our lives sometimes and there is nothing wrong with that. Plus, I’m sure you’ll have changing and shifting emotions about this whole thing as it continues to play out and when you look back on it later.
Lean on Mr. Hedgehog (and your family and friends) in this difficult time. I’ll be thinking of you both!
Post # 7
I’m sorry for the loss of your pregnancy. Having a D&C is another thing you will have to cope with.
Give yourself permission to grieve your losses.
Post # 8
@Mrs Hedgehog: I am so sorry to hear that. You definitely shouldn’t be angry that you aren’t sad, everyone copes differently. I don’t even know anything helpful to say but I will be praying for you and your husband!
Post # 9
@cyndistar3: This. *hugs* praying for ya
Post # 10
I’m really sorry you had to go through all this; I’ve been thinking about you often.
Take the time to feel however you feel. If you’re angry, that’s valid. If you do become sad later, that’s valid, too. Numbness right now is valid. I hope you can just focus on you and Darling Husband and feeling better.
*huge internet stranger hugs* 🙂
Post # 11
There is no wrong way to feel. Thinking of you.
Post # 12
🙁 Prayers and postive thoughts comming your way.
Time will heal it all.
Post # 13
I’m so sorry for your loss 🙁
Post # 14
I am just soooo sorry. Don’t be so hard on yourself right now, just take everything day by day, you’re going through a lot.
Post # 15
I am SO sorry that you’re going through this, no one should have to. It will definitely make your relationship stronger though. Hugs!!
Post # 16
i’m very sorry for you and Mr. Hedgie, girl :[