Post # 1
I am a shoe girl. I love love love shoes.
About 4 years ago I hurt my knee. My right knee cap slid out of place. I have 2 kids. At that point I was not where I could get surgery and take care of them too. So I waited. Last year their dad took them for a week vacation and I took my “vacation” and got a lateral release on my right knee. It was perfect timing, or so I thought. 2 months after, I lost my health insurance for 90 days interrupting my Physical Therapy. I just restarted PT and realize how far I have been set back. It is REALLY far. I am still in a LOT of pain. I thought I would be healed by now.
I have been dreaming about what heels I would wear for the wedding. I would scrimp and pinch on the dress for a pair of amazing heels. NOTHING out there makes me feel sexy like a pair of 4″ spikes. FI is 6’4″ and I am 5’10” so it works perfect. Our venue is outside BUT it has a cart path for the isle so I would not sink into the grass.
I am coming to the realization, that I will not be recovered. Heels hurt to wear. A lot. I can make 10 min if I am lucky and stairs in heels is not an option at all. I am going to have to wear flats… Some are pretty… but they just aren’t me. It isn’t a HUGE deal… but I am kinda bummed and not sure what to do. I am still kicking butt at PT… and hoping… but it really isn’t looking positive. 🙁
Post # 3
@LadyCupcake: Wear your sexy shoes for the ceremony and first dance then cute flats for the reception. I type this as I sit on the couch waiting for my 2 pain pills to knock me out. I had a wreck last month that hurt my back. I had PT today, I had to leave work because I’m in so much pain. I feel your pain both ways. I wear 4 inch heels everyday and now I’m waiting to sleep this damn pain away. Two peas in pod:0) FYI….today was the first day I wore a semi heel…2 inches…did I mention, I feel like I’m in labor my back hurts so bad. Chose carefully my fellow diva.
Post # 4
@Soladylike: I am hoping I will be able to suck it up… but at this point I can’t even stand still for 10 min in them. I am totally unstable and I don’t want to hobble down the isle.
Im sorry about your wreck and your back… that is awful. I hope you are feeling better soon!
Post # 5
I know this is a few months behind but, hopefully it will still be helpful. I have had knee dislocations and have also under gone a lateral release, in addition to a medial tighten. Ever since my knee surgery I have had pretty sever pain when trying to wear high heels. I can usually where them for around 30 minutes of walking if I MUST. But then again, the heels I wear are much shorter than 4″. My surgery was a little over 12 years ago.
I hope that you are able to get to a point in your therapy where you are able to wear your high heels (if you haven’t gotten there already), but if not that is ok! I understand that it is really improtant to you, but if you are in pain and unstable while walking down the isle, will you really remember your special day the way you want to? If your dress is long and covers your shoes, no one will even know what shoes you are wearing besides you! In our culture something about high heels does just say “sexy,” but at the end of the day you get decide what makes you feel attractive. Are there any other ways to make you speical day feel great?
Unfortunately in life we rarley get to choose our circumstances, but we do get to choose our reactions and atttitudes. Even if the high heels don’t happen, you get to decide how you will let that impact your speicla day.
Wishing you all the best!
Post # 6
I completely understand how you feel. I started dislocating my knees when I was 12 and had my first knee surgery when I was 13. That surgery stopped the dislocations but I got terrible arthritis from having surgery at such a young age. Long story but I’ve had 6 surgeries overall included total knee replacements on both knees.
So heels are almost always out for me. I like the idea of you wearing heels for the ceremony & then switching to flats. I’m getting married on a beach so it will probably be flip flops/flats for me too.
I know heels make you carry yourself a certain way but when they inflict pain, fashion goes out with window for me! 🙂