(Closed) Heels during sex…advice would be great!

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Hubs doesn’t like any extra clothes, like lingerie or anything like that. Works for me cuz now I don’t have to spend the money! I could see heels during the act being painful. I wouldn’t get upset, he’s the one who wanted it in the first place.  Maybe ask him outside of the bedroom about his reaction

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

 He is the best person to answer this, you should ask him why he asks you to take it off and see what he says

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

You should ask him what he meant when he said that. On a side note have you tried knee boots? All my guy friends (and hubs) talk about this.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

In my experience, heels are a total pain in the ass during sex. They poke, they get in the way, and it’s probably not that he doesn’t like them on you, it’s just that it’s sexier in theory than in reality. Probably his fantasy of them just didn’t live up to the reality that they are annoying to deal with during sex! Don’t take it personal.

Post # 8
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Newbee

I agree with the other posts…he’s probably the best person to answer this. My SO loves heels during sex, but they usually stay on and only when we’re not in the bedroom, like on the couch or somewhere where I won’t rip the sheets with them…LOL

Maybe he’s just more turned on by the fantasy of heels during sex than the actual act, because to be honest it can be a bit awkward…I’m not the smoothest person and I’m always afraid of jabbing him with them 🙂

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Maybe he meant just heels?  No lingerie involved?

But I agree with PPs as well.  Ask him what he really likes.  Doesn’t hurt to ask.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Maybe he likes the IDEA of heels in bed but fears the actuality of getting a stilletto in the balls.

Heels during sex works best if you’re not in an actual bed but either standing or some sort of seated position (couch or a chair). But if he’s asked you to take them off twice then maybe he doesn’t really care about them.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think he probably likes the look of the heels and stuff beforehand, and that gets him excited and then he is all inthe mood but doesnt need them on during. Idk really thats all I could tink of. The best person to ask his him.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Maybe he means heels outside of bed (like standing up sex?)

Heels just fall off when I lay down…

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree that the thing to do is ask him. He may have a specific scenario in mind and in order for you to get the details right he will have to tell you specifically.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I take them off anyway before…basically they’re just a prop before the real fun begins. UNLESS you’re standing up while gettin’ busy.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’d say they’re good visuals before the party starts. Like some sexy lingerie, thigh high stockings, and heels. Make a little show of it all, and then leave them all on the floor before jumping into bed. Like a PP said, I’d imagine a Stiletto to the balls is no fun for anyone.

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