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    lisalulu    September 19, 2009   Santa Barbara,CA

    Hey! Has anyone ever heard of heel lifts? Or arch lifts that can make my FI taller? I am having a hard time finding shoes (not because I am overly high maitenance) because he's short! Help?

    What can I do to his shoe or is there a shoe I can buy to make him taller for the day?

     
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    bruschetta    August 29, 2009   Philadelphia

    Hmm, don't most man dress shoes give the guys about an inch or so?  How much vertical "enhancement" Heels or lifts for my adorable Tom Cruise like fiance? :  wedding shoe short men heel heel Icon Wink are you looking to add?

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    lisalulu    September 19, 2009   Santa Barbara,CA

    He is 1.5" taller than me. I would love to wear 3.5" heels. I saw lifts advertised on the internet. I'm going to tell him, they are so his shoes are more comfortable and so that his back doesn't hurt...Heels or lifts for my adorable Tom Cruise like fiance? :  wedding shoe short men heel heel Icon Wink They are about $30.00.

     

    Anyone ever buy these? Do your guys wear these?

     
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    BeeBride09    11/27/2009   Tampa, Florida

    I found menstallshoes.com but we have not purchased them yet. 

     
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    lisalulu    September 19, 2009   Santa Barbara,CA

    I love mens tall shoes.com! But I need brown! Brown elevator shoes...

     
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    jhphi    January 1, 2008  

    I wouldn't make my fiance wear high heels to our wedding, just because I wanted to wear stilettos-- that would be really unfair to him.  There are plenty of beautiful kitten heels and flats out there you could choose.  Are you wearing a short dress?  If not, your shoes will probably not even show.  Is it because you like a specific shoe, or you just want the extra height?

    I would just tread carefully with this one, as it could really hurt your fiance's ego.  Some men have a real "thing" about height, and feel that taller equals more masculine.  Especially if he's on the shorter side, he may have a bit of a complex about his height, and may feel embarrassed if you ask him to wear lifts (I'm assuming he's clever and would see through the "good for your back" fib).

     
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    I also think that unless your fiance expresses a desire to be taller, you should wear lower heels.   Telling him you want him to be taller will really make you come across as a bit of a -zilla.  

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    Bamboo    June 2010   Midwest

    I agree with the posts about not asking him to wear shoes with heels. My guy is only about 1.5-2 inches taller than me and I decided I will be wearing shoes with low heels. I know he doesn't want to be shorter than me and he would take a lot of flack for wearing man-heels.

     
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    loveatfirstsightlover    May 30, 2009   Iowa

    Does he want to be taller than you or do you want him to be taller than you? If he doesn't care that you're taller, wear the heels you want and get over the notion that the man in the relationship has to be taller. If it really bothers you to have a shorter man, I'd definitely suggest finding an attractive lower heel rather than putting him in lifts. 

     
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    Miss SoonToBee    11-07-09   Fayetteville, Ar

    yeah, i think this really has the potential to hurt his feelings. i mean, he probably already has a problem with being a shorter guy. i'm wearing flats (same situation) and while they're not my first choice of shoes for our wedding it will make us look a bit more balanced.

    my fiance would freaking pass out if i made that request...

     
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    lisalulu    September 19, 2009   Santa Barbara,CA

    Hey bees! Thanks for your help. It is important for me to be tactfull and not "zilla"...heheh.

    My FI asked what I was doing today and I said "shoe shopping" because I need to start my dress alterations. I said that I am having a hard time because I don't want a really high heel. Then he sweetly offered, "Do you want me to wear lifts or something?" He's really great. He doesn't care about if I wear high heels or not, I just want us to look good in the pictures. 

    Thanks for all the input! :)

    Menstallshoes.com for the lifts!

     
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    BeeBride09    11/27/2009   Tampa, Florida

    lisalulu - let me know when you get them how they work out. We have been eyeing that website. He offered the same thing when he saw the flats I had to choose from :)

     
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    Miss SoonToBee    11-07-09   Fayetteville, Ar

    oh holy crap. i know that this post is pretty much over but i told my fiance about this post and she asked if i would mind if she got them. I AM SO SHOCKED!

    I was wrong, wrong, wrong.

     
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    DarlingNikki586    January 22, 2011   Orangevale, CA

    I know this post is kind of old, but I just have to say thanks for the menstallshoes.com referral!  My fiance really wanted to find something non-obvious to be taller than me for our big day, since every other day, I'm a couple inches above him! I can't wait to show him this! Smile

     

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