Post # 1
So… I think I found my dresses. My ceremony dress would be hemmed for a 4 inch heel, but I don’t know how to hem my reception dress.
My future hubby is the same height as me and doesn’t care whether I wear heels or not. I am a shoe queen and love the look of higher heels, but also don’t know if my photos would look “off” if I’m taller in every single shot – not to mention dancing and whether I really want to commit to 4 inch heels in both dresses when the ceremony and reception will run at least 5 hours.
Did or are you girls wearing high heels the whole time? Do you think it would look odd if the front of my dress is hemmed for me without shoes and shows my shoes when I am wearing heels? The back of the reception dress will still have a bustled train… Although a lot less voluminous than the ceremy train… So I’m less concerned about the back of the dress.
Also, I know this is minor: do you think our photos would look odd if I’m taller in every shot?
Post # 2
I would go a lower heel say 2.5 inches for the reception. mainly for comfort.
Im the same height as my groom too. Im banking on him standing up tall during the wedding to counteract y 2.5 inch heels. No way was i wearning a dress without heels.
The difference flat to 2.5 inches isnt much. But flat to 4 inches is a lot. So 2.5 inches is in the middle. He can also get a shoe with thicker soles/heel.
Theres lots of poses we can do where we’re not always just standing beside eachother so that shouldnt be a problem in photos. For example, sitting, one standingon a prop like a rock or bench, beach sand, or even the old dip and kiss. That leaves only the family portraits which would be the twi of you side by side same height.
Post # 3
Consultette: I think what height shoe you should wear depends on your and your FI’s personal preferences. If you are both comfortable with a 4″ height difference and you like high heels, go for 4″ for the ceremony and photos.
You say you’re unsure about whether you’re comfortable with the 4″ height difference in photos. In order to help you elucidate what you are comfortable with, I’d suggest dressing up in 4″ heels and having your FI wear similar shoes to what he would wear at the wedding and then asking a friend to just take a few photos. That way you can see what the height difference would look like and whether you should adjust the heel height.
Since you are having a separate reception dress, I will echo the PP in suggesting that you go with a heel of lower height for the reception because of comfort. 2.5″ seems like a good height that will allow you to comfortably be on your feet and actively dancing at the reception.
Post # 4
Consultette: I am already 6’1 (so is my FI). So I’m not wearing heels. I love them. I wear them all the time to work and out socially, but I figure I’ll probably spend most of the wedding day on my feet running around, greeting people, standing at the ceremony, dancing, etc. I know even my most comfortable heels will bother me by the end. So I’m wearing flats.
My FI doesn’t care if I’m taller than him. In our engagement photos I wore heels. We do have a couple of photos where I look about a half a foot taller than him because I’m in heels, closer to the photographer and on the higher side of the hill. I think they’re hilarious, but to be honest we wouldn’t use them for anything or print them. I didn’t really want to tower over him all day at the wedding, either.
Post # 5
I absolutely love high heels but have gone for 2 inch heels for my wedding day because a) they’ll be much more comfortable, b) they’re under the dress anyway so will hardly be seen, c) i dont want to wear flats, and d) FI is the same height as me and this is the maximum difference we would want in photographs