Heels when the groom is the same height?

posted 2 years ago in Shoes
Post # 2
174 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I would go a lower heel say 2.5 inches for the reception. mainly for comfort. 

Im the same height as my groom too. Im banking on him standing up tall during the wedding to counteract y 2.5 inch heels. No way was i wearning a dress without heels.

The difference flat to 2.5 inches isnt much. But flat to 4 inches is a lot. So 2.5 inches is in the middle. He can also get a shoe with thicker soles/heel. 

Theres lots of poses we can do where we’re not always just standing beside eachother so that shouldnt be a problem in photos. For example, sitting, one standingon a prop like a rock or bench, beach sand, or even the old dip and kiss. That leaves only the family portraits which would be the twi of you side by side same height. 

  • This reply was modified 1 year, 12 months ago by  OzGirl.
Post # 3
2169 posts
Buzzing bee

Consultette:  I think what height shoe you should wear depends on your and your FI’s personal preferences. If you are both comfortable with a 4″ height difference and you like high heels, go for 4″ for the ceremony and photos.

You say you’re unsure about whether you’re comfortable with the 4″ height difference in photos. In order to help you elucidate what you are comfortable with, I’d suggest dressing up in 4″ heels and having your FI wear similar shoes to what he would wear at the wedding and then asking a friend to just take a few photos. That way you can see what the height difference would look like and whether you should adjust the heel height.

Since you are having a separate reception dress, I will echo the PP in suggesting that you go with a heel of lower height for the reception because of comfort. 2.5″ seems like a good height that will allow you to comfortably be on your feet and actively dancing at the reception.

Post # 4
2414 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Consultette:  I am already 6’1 (so is my FI).  So I’m not wearing heels.  I love them.  I wear them all the time to work and out socially, but I figure I’ll probably spend most of the wedding day on my feet running around, greeting people, standing at the ceremony, dancing, etc.  I know even my most comfortable heels will bother me by the end.  So I’m wearing flats.  

My FI doesn’t care if I’m taller than him.  In our engagement photos I wore heels.  We do have a couple of photos where I look about a half a foot taller than him because I’m in heels, closer to the photographer and on the higher side of the hill. I think they’re hilarious, but to be honest we wouldn’t use them for anything or print them.  I didn’t really want to tower over him all day at the wedding, either.  

Post # 5
889 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I absolutely love high heels but have gone for 2 inch heels for my wedding day because a) they’ll be much more comfortable, b) they’re under the dress anyway so will hardly be seen, c) i dont want to wear flats, and d) FI is the same height as me and this is the maximum difference we would want in photographs 

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