Heirloom Ring… please help

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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689 posts
Busy bee

Take a look at the ring yourself to see if u like the style. if not, reset the diamond.

Have a jeweler look at the ring if you like the style to make sure it’s still securely set.

Post # 4
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3210 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I think you should re-set it if you don’t like the setting it’s in, and if you DO like it, have the jeweler just double-check the wear.

I am biased, because I have an heirloom diamond in a new setting! 🙂 But that’s the tradition in my family–4 different brides have had this stone, with 4 different settings!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@JMH_CLL:  Maybe have him propose with the original setting? If you do like it – take it to a jeweler for some fixing up. If you don’t like it – have it reset!

Post # 7
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3365 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1997

Regardless of what you decide to do, make sure you keep the original setting. At some point you may regret not having or knowing what the vintage ring was. With the old setting kept, either someone else in the family can use it or see it, or you could even have it remade in new materials. When the old setting is gone, it is gone, so even if you have the stone reset (no harm in that – lots of people do that), just have the jeweler return the original setting.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

A jeweler should be able to look at the ring and asess if any of the prongs are loose or if  the setting is at risk to lose the stone. If it’s getting too worn they can repair the specific prong and you’re good to go. I have several heirloom rings and I try to take them to a jeweler about once a year to get them cleaned and check the settings. They can also bulk up the band if it is worn thin. So the logistics of wearing an old ring can be pretty easily overcome.

The question of whether or not you would like this setting is totally different and very personal. For me, we were combining two heirloom rings into mine, so while I kept the large majority of the setting, I did get rid of one tiny piece that I didn’t care for to make room for the stone from the other ring. Is it important that he propose with the exact ring you will wear? He could always propose with the ring as it is and you could have it reset afterwards if you want a different setting. Personally, I saw the two rings before the proposal and had a vague idea how the ring was going to look at the end, but didn’t see the actual ring until the proposal and it didn’t take anything away from the proposal at all! And I absolutely adored my ring then and now! The center stone is from my great-grandmmother’s e-ring and the settting is from my husband’s grandmother’s e-ring:

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@JMH_CLL:  Good! The key is to just keep an open eye about it. Proposals don’t need to follow a set script, they can be formed to fit each couple!

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

@JMH_CLL:  yup I agree, just take it in after he proposes (!!) and see what the jeweler thinks. Someone who specializes in antiques or at least has a lot of experience would be ideal.

I also wear my great-grandmother’s (and then grandmother’s) ring! I never knew her but I love having that piece of family history. My jeweler recommended we have the platinum prongs rebuilt because they were pretty worn after 100 years of use, and now it’s as good as new.

But I’m sure your great grandma would want you to wear it in the way you’ll love it most, even if that means getting a new setting more to you taste, etc 🙂

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Honestly, I would look at the ring and if you don’t like the setting, don’t use it. We have a lot of heirloom jewelry in my family, and I would not feel comfortable resetting most, if any, of it. If you do like the setting, why not take it to a jewler that specializes in reservation/restoration and have them make sure that the setting is sound and really ready to go? 

An early Congrats though! 

Post # 13
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5483 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@JMH_CLL:  can’t wait to see it when you get it! Echo pps-see what you think after looking at the original setting again. I guess it depends if you like vintage! I have an heirloom stone but a new, simple, modern setting. Best of both worlds!!

@howsweetitis:  four?? That’s really cool!! 🙂

Post # 14
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3941 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@JMH_CLL:   I have an heirloom diamond, which we chose to have remounted into a bezel setting which our jeweler felt was safer for every day wear, especially since I’m an outdoorsy type.  My FI had a beautiful tourmaline set into the original mounting and I now have that for a RHR.  

I hope you will post photos of your ring!!  Happy times!!  

Post # 15
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6048 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I have my grandmother’s diamond.  When DH walked into the jeweler with the original setting, the woman practically grabbed it from him and ran in the back.  The setting was apparently covering most of the diamond so it looked so much bigger (I don’t really remember the original setting) and the specs were better than we thought.  Also two prongs were loose so it was good to take it in.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I have an heirloom diamond in my e-ring. It is one of the diamonds from my FI’s mother’s originally 3-stone e-ring. Having the diamond and putting into a new setting was still very special! He bought his mom a blue saphire to replace the diamond which was nice, and we’re starting a tradition together.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with just using the diamond!

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