Heirloom ring needs fixing, what would you do?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

i would have it reset. if the setting itself is worn out, it’s probably safer to do that, instead of just repairing it so often. it would be less expensive in the long run. either that, or bring it to a different jeweler and get a second opinion.

is it engraved at all? like, on the inside. that would be the one thing that would stop me from having it reset, and just keeping it as an heirloom that stays in a jewelry box.

Post # 3
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Busy bee

Go to the expert on antique jewelry.  Someone who will be able to tell you what the best choice would be!  

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

It is so beautiful that even if you choose to have it reset, I think I would basically see how much it would cost to have a setting made that looks just like its original setting, only without the metal worn, of course. But before anything else, I would take it to a different place to get a second opinion. It never hurts. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Is it possible to have it repaired and only wear it on special occasions? Wear your stand in ring full time and just switch it outwhen your dressed up or for special events? If it was me, I wouldnt want to lose something so sesentimental,  so I would probably fix it and baby it and wear thr other band full time. They are both beautiful though!

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would have it repaired and take  it to the jewler yearly to get it checked/repaired if needed. I own several heirloom rings of that age and you can definitely get lots more wear from them. And it’s so nice to have that sentimental connection. And I think it’s a lovely ring as it is!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would have it reset if I were you. I wouldn’t want to take the chance of repairing it and then something happen to it.

I have a ring from my aunt that is too small to fit me. It’s a beautiful solitaire in an intricate antique setting. I took it to a jewler who desgins and repairs rings, to get it resized. He looked at it, and a similar problem, the band is so worn and it’s so old that it’s VERY thin. He pretty much told me that it would just be too weak to resize to make larger, and he suggested either a new (different) setting altogether, or having the origional setting recreated. I STILL haven’t decided what to do, so I took the ring home and it just sits in the box..lol.

Post # 10
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Honey bee

kittywolf13:  Your heirloom band is absolutely stunning. I have wanted to comment in your thread a couple of times, but I keep getting distracted by that first picture. I end up staring and staring at your gorgeous band and then wander away without remembering to comment. (Tiny brain syndrome — LOL!) Your stand-in band is beautiful, too!

I don’t have any heirloom rings, but I can see how it would be a hard and heartbreaking decision. It must feel like there are no good answers, no matter what you do.

If it was me and the jeweler told me they couldn’t repair the ring, I think I would consider having a new setting — one that exactly matches the old one — made. That way, the stones are all original and the ring at least looks like it always has, even though the metal in the setting is new. If you had the band remade, you could even have the jeweler put the original “1927” inscription back onto the band.

Although, I have to admit it makes me a little ill to think of making a new setting for a treasured piece with such a long history. But, maybe it would be better than risking losing a stone … and at least you could wear it every day again.

All the best wishes for your difficult decision.

Post # 12
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Honey bee

kittywolf13:  You are so welcome! Honestly, I wanted to send you internet hugs after reading your initial post but didn’t want you to think I was a weirdo or something. But, after reading your most recent post, I don’t even care. I’m sending those internet hugs, anyhow! *hugshugshugs*

Your ring has such an amazing, tragic, and beautiful, beautiful story. And that story becomes part of the ring. So I definitely do NOT think you are a loon for feeling the way you do about it. It’s so easy for me (or anyone) to give advice over an internet forum, but if I were in your position, I honestly don’t know what I would do. It makes me want to cry thinking about either of the options you have, and it’s not even my ring!

I think, though, that the ring’s original owner might be happy knowing how beloved her treasure has been to you and to your family. Even if you end up remaking the ring’s setting, the life of that ring is still there. The setting might not be the same antique, but the stones are … and the spirit of the ring and its original wearer will still be there. She and her love will live on in your thoughts and your heart as long as you wear her ring. I think she might love knowing it meant enough to someone that they agonized over the best thing to do and even that they loved her ring enough to have it remade, exactly as it looked (perhaps) on the day she received it.

Ultimately, whatever you decide will be the right thing. If you follow your heart, I bet it won’t steer you wrong.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Have the stones reset, and their history will remain intact.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

kittywolf13: first of all I LOVE your band so beautiful!  I am in the same situation with my great grandmothers band. It is a platinum eternity band from the 30s and is very worn and needs a few diamonds replaced that are cracked. I took it who 3 jewelry stores who told me not to waste my time Fixing it and I was devastated. One jeweler send the ring out and it came back with 3 more diamonds shattered than when I brought it to then and told me it would be 3800 to melt down and recreate since it was too thin to resize (the ring is a size 8 and I’m a 4 1/4).  I finally found another small independently owned shop that would charge me 1800 to fix. It’s hard for me bc I want to be able to wear it every day but I feel like it won’t be the same once it’s melted. I finally decided that for the wedding I will wear the ting as is… so that it is her wedding ring.. And then I will take it to be worked on when we get back from the honeymoon ( also gives me time to save be able to afford it lol)here is a pix of my ering and wedding band 🙂 I know it’s a hard decision… But good luck!

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