(Closed) Heirloom – What do you think?

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

Personally, I think that’s awesome! But I’ve always wanted a ring that’s been in the family, and luckily that’s what I got too! My fiance proposed with his great grandma’s ring, and actually said that it’s ok for me to change the setting, but I would never want to do that. It’s beautiful and has so much more meaning this way.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

I encouraged FI to use a family ring for my engagement ring!  I think it is unique and special and would love it!

Post # 5
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I love the idea of a family ring, but I am biased…  That’s what I have!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I love this. A ring is a ring… but a ring with history is so special! You can have a choice in an anniversary ring somewhere down the line.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

A ring is a ring…if you are really unhappy about it, maybe speak with your family and your fi about picking out a ring that is more your style…but step carefully, feelings will be hurt :S

Maybe you can hold out for an anniversary ring that is really special? Or wear it around your neck and just wear your wedding band (after the wedding of course)

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

No, not at all! If anything you should feel happy that your mother loves and trusts your FI to give him the ring to give to you!

I’m biased here because I got a family heirloom as well, but I think they’re absolutely lovely. I don’t know that there’s any “norm” these days for anything wedding related! 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

My ring wasnt handed down to me, but we didn’t pick it out or even HINT about what style ring I wanted. I don’t think there is a “norm” to any part of the ring-getting processes! I don’t think it’s weird either if it’s from your mom

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Catholic ceremony, reception at local armory

I would love to have an heirloom ring.  Something about a piece of history on your finger is just so special!!

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I think it’s great that your ring is a family ring.  If it’s not your style, maybe you could talk to your mom to see how she’d feel about you putting it in another setting, one that IS more your style.  That way, it’s still from family, but it’s you too!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I love my heirloom stone more than anything he could have bought new.  It’s so symbolic, especially since we chose a new setting for it together, which made it completely mine. 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2009 - Cathedral of the Sacred Heart & The Jefferson Hotel

my ring is an heirloom! I loved the original setting, but it was old and no longer reliable to hold the diamond, so I had it reset. So I get the heirloom and my own ring. The best of both worlds!

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

i would love it too!! my son actually will have one as well.  he is getting my mother’s pear shaped diamond (1.16 carats) and he’ll get the art deco sapphire that his father bought for me when we were engaged… she’ll have her diamond and her something blue

Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think it’s great when heirloom jewelry is handed down. I’d love to have something like that from my mom.

But, that being said, I’m too picky for that and my taste is much too modern and unusual for anything any of our families had. Not that I wouldn’t have happily accepted one, but it was never in the picture so I was always told to go pick out what I wanted. And I do like that my husband bought it for me, and while i love things from my mom, i felt like an engagement ring should come from him since he could afford it (and he said he would have felt too weird taking something of my family’s, so it wouldn’t have been ok for us…he was really adamant that he must buy it for me, so i never even began to argue!) But, if I’d had the opportunity for an heirloom ring, that’s not to say I wouldn’t have been thrilled with it. It just was never in the cards for us. Stone, yes, setting, no, likely not.

If you dont like it (which you’ve said isn’t the case) that’s a different story….I don’t ever want to feel like i have to wear anything I don’t like, just b/c it came from whoever it did, and he knew that.

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