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I am having a hard time deciding if I should make one of my friends a BM. She recently asked me if I would be one of her BM's and I said yes. I am one of her two ONLY friends of the west coast (where she has been living).

I am dying to ask my BM's I have already asked my MOH (her other 1 friend from the west coast who she also asked to be a BM). Thing is we are not that close.. to me anyways...

How would you feel if a Bride didnt ask you and you asked her? Our weddings will be about a month or two apart. We are going to bridal shows together and wine tasting soon, and I dont want to hurt her feelings.

Bridesmaids don't have to be reciprocal. You can totally be completely honored to be her BM without asking her to be one in your wedding. It doesn't need to be awkward. If she's at all reasonable, it won't be an issue.

@babylou: I know it doesn't have to be but under the circumstances that we are both planning our weddings. I feel like I should.

@mcnetn3: I am leaning toward that. I just don't want to look back on my pictures and say "who the heck is that." We have only known each other for 1 year. My two other future BM's I have known since 2004 and my MOH since 2009(which also is not a long time)...

I have the money to pay for all the BM stuff. So that is not an issue.

If I had the "space" I would ask her, but only if I had a spot. It might be a bonding experience for you and you might grow closer. But I don't think it would be rude if you didn't ask her. Follow your heart...

@LittleDee27: I have 3 picked out so four. I think that since I would love to have her with me getting ready. I should ask her. She is just a new friend, but a friend :)

Thanks all I guess I just needed to talk it out!

Four it is!!