- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2014 - Families Church
Hello All! I’m new to WeddingBee, so I’ve been looking around almost everywhere lately to try and get good ideas. I’ve just been going through some grief here lately and I wanted to ask my fellow future brides for some advice.
How involved is or was your Maid of Honor?
My Maid of Honor is an awesome person and I love her to death. Obviously because I chose her to share this special moment with me during my wedding. We’ve only been friends for a little over 2 years, but she’s been there for me with a lot. The problem I find myself having is she NEVER seems to want to help me with anything. I’ve asked her to help me with the invitations, as I’ve decided to make them by hand. I love crafting, so I figured why not? She pretty much always has an excuse for why she can’t come over. I’ve asked her to accompany me while looking at dresses and maybe hopefully we can shop together for her dress as well. Again, she’s always too busy. I’ve told her the colors my Fiance’ and I have chosen and I’ve expressed to her and my bridesmaids what I would like for them to do…all my bridesmaids agree..my Maid of Honor however…does not. She wants to do her “own” thing and set herself apart from everyone else.
I am trying so hard not be the crazy bride. I’ve decided to simply state the colors I would like and allow anyone in the wedding to choose their own dresses/suits. As long as they fit the theme. I’m not forcefully saying DO THIS,DO THAT!! And yet, she seems to think if it isn’t HER way, it’s NO way. Is it not supposed to be about me and my soon to be husband? Am I over-reacting?? I’ve received advice here, in real life, but everybody tells me the same thing. “Demote her to bridesmaid and give someone else the honor” I just don’t think I’ve got the heart for that. I love her to death as a person..she just really doesn’t do well as my Maid of Honor so far.