Post # 1
My best friend is getting married at the end of this year. She has asked me to be the maid of honor, and would just like her sisters to be the other bridesmaids. 2 of them.. There is anther girl that had decided that she is going to be a bridesmaid, or moreso assumed.. My friend is torn and I’m not sure what to tell her to help.. What can she do to tell this girl no, without causing sour feelings.
Post # 3
She can tell the girl that while she would be honored to have her in her wedding, she and her groom-to-be decided on a certain number already and that is how many guys will be in the bridal party and they would like an even number on each side. Then, she can tell her that she was actually using her for another job (e.g. reader, singer, usher, etc.) Your friend can’t have her as a BM out of pity, ya know?
Post # 4
Ultimately, if your friend doesn’t want this girl in the wedding, she should tell her that she thought the best way to decide on the BP is to just have her sisters and her BFF (you). She could say how it’s the only way to make sure the BMs were evenly numbered with the GMs. And by not having other friends, she wouldn’t be choosing favorites among them. (And that she wished she could have figured another way to have all of the girls she wanted to ask.)
You didn’t mention anything about this girl. Why would she assume that she’d be a bridesmaid? Why didn’t the bride consider her?