(Closed) help!

posted 9 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

ack!  would it be that big of a deal if you invited her?  because it will probably be a big deal if you don’t, so i would consider biting the bullet and inviting her for the sake of family harmony.  if you absolutely will not invite her, send the invitation addressed to just your dad, his girlfriend and your sister – then follow up with a call explaining to your dad that you don’t want his girlfriend’s daughter there, and explain why.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

 

Don’t worry, you’re not the first who’s ever sent an invitation like this.

Just address it like so:

This invitation is for: Mr. John Smith, Jane Smith, and Jennifer Smith. They should get the idea.

My cousin was once excluded from an invitation. The invite was addressed to her father, her mother and her older brother. Their family was pretty understanding because they knew how costly weddings were, and my cousin wasn’t so close to the bride and groom anyway.

You might also want to give them a call before they mail out the RSVP and ask if "The three of them will attend your wedding." This way, you can make it explicit that only three people from the household are invited.

Good luck girl!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

…or better yet, send one to your dad and his girlfriend and a separate one to your sister.  that may do the trick.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Rancho Bernardo Inn

I think if you list the names specifically that should be a good indicator. 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Specifically addressing who it is for would work.  Some people also have RSVP cards where they write the names of those who are invited, so maybe you could do that.  I think etiquette states, though, that because your sister is older she should get her own invite.  So, just sent her one, then address the other just to your dad and the gf and hopefully that will do the trick!

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