Post # 1
I had a lot of trouble finding bridesmaids for my wedding. I live in a different province than where I grew up and my wedding is on the canadian thanksgiving weekend. It’s understandable that some of my best friends wouldnt be able to attend.
Ive had some trouble with one bridesmaid who didnt bother to go pick up the dress that I had a store hold for her and that I gave her money for. In the end, the dress is no longer available and Im not sure what to do.
I have another friend who cant decide if she will commit to being a bridesmaid at all. My wedding is in 59 days at this point and I haven’t been able to reach this friend in over a month. Is she avoiding me because she doesnt want to say no? Should I just write her off?
The best scenerio I can come up with at this point is that the second friend tells me she cant commit because of travel (but still ends up being there!) and I can give her dress to the other bridesmaid to be altered to fit. I have no control over how this will pan out though.
At what point is it OK to say that my friend is just not going to do it? What if I still cant reach her in another month, do I just go ahead and assume she’s not coming?!!
Post # 3
Yikes, this is tough. How many bridesmaids have commited? And have their dresses?
Post # 4
@Gemstone: I have two committed and have both of their dresses, plus the one that didn’t get hers. I just happened to be walking past a sale of $200 dresses marked down to $40 that were in three of my ladies’ sizes. One hadnt committed yet, but I bought it anyway at that price. Then I had the store find the dress near the other bridesmaid’s house. It could have all worked out. Not I have no idea.
FI has four standing with him. Im not too worried about the sides matching, but I dont know how to tell the one that didnt get her dress that I dont have anything for her to wear.
Post # 5
Here are a couple of options…I know neither is ideal 🙁
You could have your girls mismatch a little bit, as in, get a dress for the one without that’s a similar color and style but doesn’t match exactly. That’s more and more common now. If the second friend (who hasn’t commited) decides she is going to be a BM, you could have her get a different dress, too, so then you have two and two? You may have to eat the original $40 for the first dress, but that’s not too bad at the end of the day.
You could also ask one or both of the girls in question to have a different role in the ceremony. Like I said, I know it’s not a fun option, but it’s there.
Honestly though, at this point, I’d think that the girl who hasn’t commited is no longer a BM. Your wedding is in less than two months! If she decides she wants to be included, maybe she can do a reading or something?
Post # 6
Thanks for your advice. I ended up leaving a message for the missing bridesmaid and then called the other to let her know what was up. I offered the second the choice of the dress I have or buying something different. She responded that we was unable to still commit!
So now Im down two bridesmaids! Fun times! But at least its no longer an issue 🙂