Post # 1
Hi Everyone! So I’m getting married in April – this will be my second wedding, as well as my fiances. I’m 42 and he’s 49. We’ve opted for a small brunch reception in a local restaurant, about 50 people.
My question is, what’s an appropriate style of dress to wear? I’m feeling that a full length gown may be too dressy, but at the same time, I want to look like a bride! Help!
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@kimmybeth: Tea or calf length?
Post # 4
I love tea-length dresses!
But really, you should wear whatever you want!
Post # 5
I would still wear a full length gown. My ex’s brother married a woman and she was 42 or 43. It was her second wedding and they had a very small reception on a boat. SHe wore a poofy dress. Nobody said anything negative. She looked great!
Post # 6
@kimmybeth: I would stay away from a ballgown,not because it is age inappropriate, but because it is brunch inappropriate. but other than that, you can wear what you love.
Post # 7
The tea length is so pretty! But I always feel with a dress like that, you need that “poof”…I guess I’m wanting something more fitted? Who know, I don’t know what I want anymore!
Post # 8
I think full length, no train would be brunch appropriate!
Post # 9
Full length sheath dresses are beautiful!
Post # 10
@kimmybeth: Anything fitted will look great for a brunch! I second @julies1949: choices, I think a full ballgown would look a little odd for brunch. A full length more fitted gown will look awesome. Keep in mind this is in an ideal world and if you go with a ballgown everyone will be happy just to see you look happy.
Post # 12
Definately digging the full length fitted look!
While I LOVE strapless, I’m a little concerned that I’ll be too cold? NY wedding in April and we’re hoping to have the ceremony outside, as long as we don’t have any of those April showers!
Post # 13
@kimmybeth: It is not that a full-length gown would be too “dressy”, but that as julies1949 says, it is inappropriate for daytime wear. Sure, your friends and family love you and no-one will say anything against you if you choose to be married in a duck costume, or in jeans and a tee-shirt, or wearing an evening dress in the morning — you are after all the bride, and your guests will be expected to indulge your foibles. But since you are asking this on an etiquette board after all, I have to state the recurring caveat: anything that would be rude when you are not a bride, is also rude when you are a bride. Dressing inappropriately for the time of day and level of formality is bad manners.
A tea-length dress or other day dress however is perfect for a brunch; and it can be made very formal and luxurious by your choice of cut, fabric and embellishment. Here’s one that is a little less pouffy.
Or something like this one — if you could find its twin in white, or if you are not stuck on having white as your dress colour:
Post # 14
Dress on top right would be perfect for brunch wedding. I think if you put something in your hair (or on head) that it would complete the bride look and look fresh.
Post # 15
Hmm how ’bout something like this gown from JCrew? Full length and fitted but the wrap style makes it a bit more appropriate for day time.
Post # 16
@aspasia475: would a maxi dress be ‘inappropriate’ for a brunch then? It would be floor length. The dresses that other PP’s have been posting would seem perfectly fine to me if I attended someone’s wedding and they wore something like that. (I’m asking because my knowledge of etiquette isn’t the greatest.)