Post # 1
Hi Bees… I need to know if I’m being sensitive here… and what I should do!
We decided on 4 BMs/GM and so far I’ve been able to ask 3 of the 4 people I wanted to ask (my sister, my Fiance sister and a great friend). The last 6-7 weeks, I’ve been trying to as my final Bridesmaid or Best Man. I’ve emailed, called, texted… but it’s been really tough to connect with her. I invited her out but she said she was busy… hasn’t returned my calls… I know she is super busy right now and has a ton of visitors staying with her. She’s also been travelling almost every weekend. I guess I just feel like I know she’s busy but is she avoiding me?
SHe’s been my best friend for over 15 years and we’ve never cared much about how often we were in touch (we’ve lived in different cities, countries and timezones over the years!)… but now we are in the same city and I just don’t get it.
Post # 3
I say give her some space if you know she’s busy. She may have a lot of stress due to all the things going on in her life. Maybe you can reach out to her to check in with her and not mention the wedding (which I understand can be hard).
Do you know when this hectic schedule of hers will be over? Maybe give her a few days after it’s settled to get back to you. I know when I had people visiting, the first thing I wanted to do was laundry and clean!
Post # 4
Could you mail her a “would you be my bridesmaid” card? Everyone likes getting happy mail, and then maybe she would know that its important to call you when she gets a chance!
Post # 5
Thank you both for your ideas… I have no idea when things will settle down for her… and really do not want to add to her stress. I really don’t need anything from her help wise, I just want her there with me as we take our vows.