Post # 1
So I just got engaged last night and the feelings that I am having are not what I feel like I should be having. One part of me is so excited to be engaged but the other part of me is having doubts. I don’t know if I just don’t like change, scared of commitment or what but I feel like a part of me has been taken away. It’s almost like a scared feeling. All I can think about is my childhood and how much I miss it and my family and how I feel like maybe I am too young to be making this kind of decision (22 yrs). But on the other hand, I have been waiting for him to propose for what seems like an eternity and I love him so much. I get so extremely happy knowing I’m engaged and then the next minute I’m having doubts… and then I’m happy again! :/
I guess I am just wondering if anyone else has felt this way? Maybe this is just a weird transitional phase I am going through? Any advice will be greatly appreciated 🙂
Post # 3
Hmmm… well it’s not like you are getting married tomorrow, why not have a long engagement?
Post # 4
@Jav4491: it’s normal, I think, to be nervous to a point. I was your age a year ago when we got engaged, and my husband is 30. To me though, from your post it sounds like you may have been excited to get engaged, not to actually marry someone and commit your life in such a big way like this.
Like a PP said, you could just have a long engagement, there’s no need to rush into a marriage before you’re sure; however, no matter what, remember that as exciting as getting engaged and having a wedding are, marriage is so much more than that. Make sure you’re ready and take your time planning a wedding. Congrats!
Post # 5
@Jav4491: I was engaged to a guy and kept having thoughts about how much I wish I could go back to childhood and just enjoy life with no pressure or problems.
We had a HORRIFYINGLY nasty break up 6 months later (after 1.5 years of dating). Not saying it’s going to happen to you, but in hindsight I just wasn’t ready, and that guy was just not quite right for me!