Post # 1
My boyfriend has placed the order for my ring. My mom told me about it secretly and he is soo excited. 1.50 carat center stone in a double halo. With black diamond in the outer halo. Exactly what I wanted. Problem is… I have changed my mind and want yellow diamonds.
He has already paid for the ring all 15000 grand. But I really want either a smaller stone that is a yellow diamond or a yellow diamond halo.
should I stay quiet and stick to black or speak up?
Post # 2
that is a lot of money….if it were me? I’d keep my mouth shut. You will love your ring you can always get a yellow diamond wedding band to pair with it! or maybe a yellow diamond RHR 🙂
Post # 3
I would just stay quiet for now…then when he gives you the ring, you can causually ask questions and say maybe I want yellow? If it’s custom made I doubt you can return it…in that case I’d just keep it as it is. Maybe at a later date you can get those replaced as an upgrade.
Post # 4
OOOH, be grateful and keep it quiet. Don’t rock the boat, love the rock.
Post # 5
Why have you changed your mind?
Post # 6
If your absolutely sure you would rather have yellow then say it! 15K??? That is way too much money to spend on a ring you won’t absolutely love. I’d tell him before it’s too late. He will be so upset if he spends that kind of money and finds out AFTER that you wanted something else more….not to mention you would sound incredibly ungrateful
Post # 7
He has time to change it. He ordered it on Friday. I have always liked different color diamonds and my favorite color is black and pink. He can’t afford a pink diamond obviously and so wanted to give me the next best thing, hence a black halo. But he is spending a lot of money (he is a biomedical engineer so he works a lot) and I feel bad having him drop so much on something when in my heart I like something else more.
Also I am not a jewelry person. I don’t even have my ears pierce. I do not wear bracelets or necklaces. I do wear one black onyx ring. That’s all. So this ring is a big deal because it will literally be the only piece of jewelry that I would wear.
Lastly I want my wedding bands to be yellow diamonds and am worried it will clash if I have black diamonds in the halo.
But me hurting him would crush me. He is set on giving me the best ring he can and even wanted to go into debt if it meant making me happy. Fortunately what I initially loved came under budget but I just don’t want to have him start all over.
Its just is too much money for me to be only kinda happy.
but than again I am happy just being with him. So maybe I am overthinking this and need to make the ring come second and his feelings and hardwork come first.
Post # 8
I don’t think it will hurt him as long as he has time to change it. I’m sure he wants you to absolutely love your ring and have exactly what you want! Maybe mention it to your mom and have her mention you have really been wanting a yellow halo instead??
Post # 9
Etassy: If there is enough time left, I would honestly tell him that you changed your mind. I think the yellow diamonds would be really pretty. So, maybe ask for the yellow middle stone, or leave the diamond and all, just do the outer halo in yellow. Or, wouldnt it be super pretty to do the white diamond middle, halo next to it in yellow, and outer halo white diamonds??? That would be really pretty! And, than have yellow stone wedding bands next to it. SO NICE!
Post # 10
TrueLove407: ITA that would be STUNNING with your wedding bands!!!!
Post # 12
I’d wait and see it in person first, and if you don’t like it in person you should just tell him and get the ring you want. $15K is too much for a piece of jewelry you aren’t truly in love with in my opinion, and I’m sure he just wants you to have what will make you happy!
Post # 13
Etassy: Why can’t your Mom tell him???
Post # 14
Thank you for the advice I have mention it to my mom. Ironically she wanted me to get yellow diamonds since the beginning especially when she knew how much he was spending. Guess mothers do know best. So she told me that she is on the phone with him. she texted me saying that he is kinda stressed about changing it but knowing me he isn’t suprised that I changed my mind. Also she texted me that he apparently hates the color yellow. He does not understand why I would want a yellow diamond when the purpose of a diamond is to be colorless.
He is going to change it however since he wants to do what makes me happy. Plus he trusts my moms advice. My mom has made me promise to not change or add anything more to this darn ring. Trust me I won’t.
I copy and paste the design ideas you all have listed and have forwarded it to her. Thank you very much everyone for the help.
I am also going to stay off the ring boards I never knew that all of these options exist.
Post # 15
Etassy: This is a sticky situation!! I unknowingly stressed my FI out with my comments regarding what kind of e-ring I wanted before we got engaged! I didn’t know that my ring was already in the works, and had I known, I doubt that I would’ve made so many confusing back and forth statements! One minute I loved halos, and the next I thought that they were too popular and common lol
My FI basically said what an above poster said, it’s too much money to spend on something that you don’t absolutely love. I’m sure he wants you to be COMPLETELY satisfied and 100% happy, especially after he took the time to get you the ring he thought you wanted. Since you “technically” don’t know details about the ring yet (thanks mom!), why don’t you casually bring up the fact that you are loving yellow diamonds and have been actually dreaming about having one in your e-ring. You can then gauge his response. If he starts frantically asking you a million questions, he probably is trying to find out exactly what you are talking about so he can change it before it’s too late!! I would only do this if you are absolutely sure that you would really be happier with something other than what he already got. Like I mentioned above, I unintentionally stressed my poor FI out by changing my mind so much lol!
Good luck!!! Your ring sounds like it’s going to be AMAZING!! I can’t wait to see photos!!!