Post # 1
My fiance and I decided on 3 people to stand up with each of us. He is having a cousin stand with him and is afraid that his other aunt will be upset if he doesn’t have her two sons have a part in the wedding too, so we were going to make them ushers. My mom is upset though because my fiance isnt even close to these cousins and my brother and two sisters dont have a part in the wedding. What can i do so they can have a part in the wedding but not stand up with us? My little brother is 8, one sister will be 11, and the other is 15.
Post # 3
He is younger but you could make him an usher and maybe give your sisters the job of handing out programs or maybe one of them could do a reading?
Post # 4
I second having them do a reading. If it’s in a church you can have them light candles. They could also both do the guestbook attendent thing. And my brother who was 12 at the time of my wedding also ushered for us. He did a good job too. 🙂 Then there’s also always the “Honorary Junior Bridesmaid” that doesn’t actually stand with you but still gets their name in the program.
Post # 5
Candle/sand/other item carriers (they walk down the aisle even in matching dresses- kind of like flower girl, but for older girls) if you are doing a unity candle ceremony or something similar)
They could escort your mom
Post # 6
After my dance with my dad, I am having a dance with my 2 brothers (each for half of the song). I saw it at a friend’s wedding and it was a very touching moment.
Post # 7
Just going to tell you what I’m doing, because I have a similar family dynamic going on, but one of my siblings is older. Here ya go: I have two younger brothers, who will be 17 and 15. My sister will be 7. My sister will be the flower girl. (Pretty much her dream, haha). My brothers are going to be groomsmen. But they also might walk me down the aisle and then go take their places at the front. He is going to have four (his brother, his best friend, my brothers) and I will have three (my best friends).
Groomsmen 2 might escort two of my girls, or MOH will walk by herself. It sounds complicated, but that’s how my family works. God help me if I had to worry about cousins. :/ Now for you, I like the usher idea for your brother. Like a “junior usher.” And why not have your sisters be junior bridesmaids? I’m not sure how you feel, but I could care less if my sides are “even” with FI’s or if it’s 3 and 3. I just want to include those that I feel should be involved.
Post # 8
I think the 15 year old could do a reading at the ceremony. The 11 year old can be put in charge of the guest book, a task I recall having at my older brothers wedding when I was that age. I do like the idea of your little brother escourting your mom down the aisle. I think one of my favorite pics of my mom of all time was her walking down the aisle with my little brother at my older brothers wedding. My little brother was a chubby little tuxedoed boy looking for all the world like a little Napoleon and my mom was beaming. I think he was 9 in that picture. BTW that same little brother is going to be walking ME down the aisle next year.