Post # 1
Hi Bees! I am new to the forum and recently engaged 🙂 I am not planning on getting married for about another two years, however was just curious as to what an average wedding buget is these days. If you don’t mind sharing (I know finances are personal) that would be great! (maybe some details such as venue, did you have an open bar, types of decorations, etc) Thanks everyone, have a wonderful day!
Post # 3
Your budget is going to be determined by 3 factors: state location (ny v. anywhere else, for example), guest list, and expectations (fresh flowers v. fake, designer gown v. chinese replica, for example).
for me, budget is around 12k for 98 guests. no open bar, outside of the city, non-floral decor, no coloured linens. I try to keep each individual item to a point where I don’t feel sick over the cost and with few exceptions, I’ve stuck with it.
Post # 4
We’re a little over 2 months out right now and we’re hovering around the $13,000 mark. It’s definitely more than I planned to spend but things add up quickly…
Venue: Hotel ballroom. Includes the ceremony site, all catering (sit down dinner & full cocktail hour) and limited open bar. The venue is the bulk of our budget coming in at around $5500 (75 guests).
Photog & DJ: In terms of what other people spend on photogs we got ours for a steal ($900) but our DJ made up for that savings by being almost $1000.
The only thing we really splurged on was the cake ($600) for a 3 tiered with canoli filling.
Decorations are all fall themed and have been very inexpensive since I’ve been garage saleing to find the bulk of it. Everything else didn’t seem very expensive on their own but when added together, there’s some major sticker shock.
The thing you have to remember is budgets are highly regional. What I can pull off with $13,000 in my little town in Upstate, NY could pay for a black tie affair in some areas but hardly even cover a cake and punch reception in others.
Post # 5
Hello welcome to the Bee!!
We are getting married in rural TX at a recently opened venue with discounted prices. The venue is also responsible for the catering. Our wedding will be a afternoon luncheon with no alcohol and a guest like of 60 max. We are having finger sandwiches, various canapes, veggies, fruits, croissants, cheeses, etc. Everything in out wedding has been DIY. I purchased my gown from a Chinese replica maker for $200, I am making out cake. All table decor, flowers, aisle decor, favors, etc will all be DIY. Both our wedding and honeymoon came in under $5,000 including airfare. I am the budget-queen. I second what Bebefly said, stick with it once you have it in stone.
Post # 6
This is going to vary widely. So I actually tallied up this terrifying number a week or so ago. 37k for 100 people. Throw in the things other people gifted to us (Cake, Veil, my Bouquet) and the number is 38.2k
I’m not including our gifts to eachother, my engagement ring, rehearsal dinner or the honeymoon. It does include our wedding rings. We did pick one of the most expensive venues in the area and we had an open bar/fresh flowers/etc…
Post # 7
Thank you for your input! Yes it does factor in where you live. I live in California in the bay area, and found that many venues range from $10,000 to $30,000 in the areas we were looking at (bay area, napa valley, Tahoe). I am going to keep looking though to see what else is out there.
Post # 8
@LGenz: Oh wow that is what I scared of! The little sneaky items that catch up to you. One venue we looked at as a beautiful garden in a winery setting and there are so many flowers and greenery in the setting we would likely not have to spend much on extra flowers or none at all (maybe do a different type of center piece). this venue is $10,000 but we would have to rbing in own catering and alcohol and I wasn’t sure if it is cheaper to bring in your own. I guess because I am in grad school right now the thought of a wedding budget is a little mind scary. My fiance is starting a wedding savings though because he has a career 🙂
Post # 9
Our budget was originally at $10k. However, it moved up quite a bit to $13k. Originally, we were going to have a brunch wedding on a Friday. However, we wanted to really do what we envisioned for our only wedding. So we moved it to the evening, which incurred greater costs all the way around. Still, much less than the national average. And were having it just outside of Denver.
ETA: We are having about 100 people.
Post # 9
$25k for 140ppl but could be doing it for a lot less. Everything has a price tag and it’s really all about what YOU want to do, and what you’re willing to spend on it. I chose one of the more expensive venues in the city, but got a great deal on my dress and awesome photographers thanks to a business connection. The venue’s preferred catering’s expensive as is the limited open bar. I’m also adding a few extra surprises that will cost some cash.
Everything just adds up, so I suggest using a budget tool from one of the websites and go from there. Things like hair and make up, tux rental, rehearsal dinner, honeymoon… it all costs cash 🙂
Post # 10
5k in Norcal, if it makes you feel better =) And I have a really expensive photographer- we’re doing a lot of DIY stuff tho and the venue is free so that makes it really helpful. If you’re looking for a cheaper vinyard than Napa/Sonoma to get married in try Lodi, the town SUCKS but the vinyards outside of it are cool =)
Post # 11
Well I live in Illinois (Kankakee area if you know where that is) and my budget for our wedding was only $1,500.00 It was the perfect budget for us because we are not doing a formal wedding…its is more of a back yard type. I am very happy with it and couldnt imagine spending more then that on a wedding! Please dont take offense to this. I am not saying a wedding isnt worth more money…its just the type of people that my FH and I are. We are the more laid back kind. I have been to several weddings that are in the thousand of dollars and they were BEAUTIFUL and fit the bride and grooms personalities! My younger cousin is getting married 13 day after we are and she is up to $11,000.00 for her wedding….but they are a very younger couple that love the party scene. I cant wait to see her wedding.
So basicly what I am trying to say…with this mumble jumble post is that it really all depends on what you are comfortable spending and how the wedding will suit you and your FH personalities!
Post # 12
@Nicoleeee18: Trust me, you can do it much cheaper than we did. FI was just set on our hotel the minute he walked into the lobby. We spent 60% of the budget on the venue/food/alcohol.
Post # 13
@Nicoleeee18: We live in the Bay Area as well, and were looking at venues that we could rent out for at least a night, preferably a weekend. Is that what you’re looking for that you’re finding venue prices that high? Ours was around 20k (though that includes a lot, including lodging for 24 and we’re charging our guests who are taking those spots).
We found some rental-type places that were significantly less than that, but more rustic and more remote. Let me know if you want more specifics – I can see what notes I can dig up from when we were looking last year.
Our overall budget is around 40-45k, though it could go down if depending how many nights our wedding party stays on site and reimburses us for. Venue is the biggest portion of that, catering second (about 10k), photography third (7k including e-pics, second shooter, multiple items), and then liquor (around 3k?? it’s byob which is nice). Other things are not even on the budget radar – our venue is outside so we’re basically not decorating. We may buy a pack of paper lanters if we get ambitious. But no flowers or centerpieces or anything, and we’re having friends do the music for the ceremony and reception.
Post # 14
oh, and food/alcohol costs (we’re providing wine with dinner) is coming in at 45% of our whole budget. Of course, that’s with everybody invited coming, which definitely won’t happen (thank whew).
Post # 15
@murmur:Wow 5 k thats awesome! I go to school up in Chico and know that most things tend to be less expensive up north than here in the bay area….thanks for the Lodi tip I will have to look into that. I might have to look into some areas I was not considering or had even thought of.
@d_mari3: We are not over the top and unrealsitic for our means and wont be that way….I basically want people to just have a blast and dance the night away lol. I know there are are ways (such as lighting) to create the perfect atmosphere for your personality and make the space look amazing. Kudos to having a $1,500 wedding, will you be my wedding planner lol.
@LGenz: Good to know, that way I can try to be more frugal in areas such as centerpieces, and other decorations…maybe make my own or find deals.
@Entangled: Yes I would love some information on your venue if you have the time 🙂 The places that tend to run more expensive are wineries in the livermore/pleasanton/san ramon areas