(Closed) Help! Addressing Invitations

posted 10 years ago in Beehive
Post # 4
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Blushing bee

I would do Mr & Dr John Smith. I would go see what the New Book of Wedding Ettiquette says. I’m not sure if it’s online, but you could probably pop into a bookstore and just read that section. 🙂

Post # 5
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21 posts
Newbee

I would consider whether Dr. Smith would be offended if you did not use "Dr." and go with Mr. & Mrs. John Smith.  Otherwise, I would spell out both of their names.  I think that using Mr. & Dr. John Smith implies that the husband is the Dr.

Post # 7
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236 posts
Helper bee

I’ve worked with cahrity foundations and they use:

Mr. & Dr. John Smith

Essentially the title is just changed from Mrs. to Dr. just as it would be for a man.

If they had different last names or were not married it would be:

Dr. Mary Smith & Mr. John Smith.

Post # 8
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385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

I would just put Mr & Mrs… although she’s a Dr, that doesn’t mean she isn’t a Mrs. LOL!

Post # 9
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230 posts
Helper bee

I’m sure i’m being petty, but as a new "Dr.", I would be a little miffed if I was labeled as a Ms. instead! (I worked darn hard for that Dr. in front of my name!!). However, my bigger issue is the whole "man’s name only" thing. I know it’s traditional etiquette, but I’ve always found it weird that the woman just gets tagged on with the man’s name. With our invitations, we spelled out everyone’s names, and sometimes put the woman before the man (gasp!). More work, yes, but it just seems more respectful! And also, we were then being consistent when we addressed the gay couples in our guestlist!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

I had a similar situation addressing one to my aunt and uncle.  All the stuff I read said "Dr. Jane Smith and Mr. Joe Smith".  The person with the highest "ranked" title goes first. 

Post # 11
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95 posts
Worker bee

I would definitly go with putting BOTH the husband and wife’s full names, or just their last name.

Not too many women want to be referred to as Ms. Joe Smith.

Either go with Mr. Joe Smith & Dr. Jane Smith

OR

Mr. & Dr. Smith 

Post # 12
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1061 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

actually baba, lots of people do get offended when you don’t use their proper titles. they paid a lot of time and money to get them!

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