Post # 1
How would I address the following on the invitation?
Mr. John Smith and Dr. Mary Smith?
Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
Dr. Mary Smith and John Smith
Mr. and Dr. John Smith?
Also, do you normally address the husband first? Or the person you know first?
Does anyone have a good resource or site? Thanks!
Post # 3
Dr. and Mrs. John Smith or Dr. John Smith and Mrs. Mary Smith
Hope this helps.
Post # 4
I would do Mr & Dr John Smith. I would go see what the New Book of Wedding Ettiquette says. I’m not sure if it’s online, but you could probably pop into a bookstore and just read that section. 🙂
Post # 5
I would consider whether Dr. Smith would be offended if you did not use "Dr." and go with Mr. & Mrs. John Smith. Otherwise, I would spell out both of their names. I think that using Mr. & Dr. John Smith implies that the husband is the Dr.
Post # 6
Every book says something different, so just pick a standard and go with it. Lots of people seem to like Crane’s Blue Book and it’s free online:
(if it were me, I would spell out both names as well and use the Dr. title)
Post # 7
I’ve worked with cahrity foundations and they use:
Mr. & Dr. John Smith
Essentially the title is just changed from Mrs. to Dr. just as it would be for a man.
If they had different last names or were not married it would be:
Dr. Mary Smith & Mr. John Smith.
Post # 8
I would just put Mr & Mrs… although she’s a Dr, that doesn’t mean she isn’t a Mrs. LOL!
Post # 9
I’m sure i’m being petty, but as a new "Dr.", I would be a little miffed if I was labeled as a Ms. instead! (I worked darn hard for that Dr. in front of my name!!). However, my bigger issue is the whole "man’s name only" thing. I know it’s traditional etiquette, but I’ve always found it weird that the woman just gets tagged on with the man’s name. With our invitations, we spelled out everyone’s names, and sometimes put the woman before the man (gasp!). More work, yes, but it just seems more respectful! And also, we were then being consistent when we addressed the gay couples in our guestlist!
Post # 10
I had a similar situation addressing one to my aunt and uncle. All the stuff I read said "Dr. Jane Smith and Mr. Joe Smith". The person with the highest "ranked" title goes first.
Post # 11
I would definitly go with putting BOTH the husband and wife’s full names, or just their last name.
Not too many women want to be referred to as Ms. Joe Smith.
Either go with Mr. Joe Smith & Dr. Jane Smith
Mr. & Dr. Smith
Post # 12
actually baba, lots of people do get offended when you don’t use their proper titles. they paid a lot of time and money to get them!