(Closed) Help advice, don't want to offend her

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
1193 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Girl, you need boundaries.  This should have NEVER gone this far.  Go to the mirror.  Say “No”.  Keep saying “no” until it feels like it’s a word you can say to another person.  You didn’t HAVE to base your bridal party off of your MIL insistence.  You didn’t HAVE to let her do the dresses. You didn’t HAVE to pick particular fabric.  

 

Who CARES if she’s offended?  That’s her choice.  She’s bulldozed you this whole time.  You just tell her what’s going to happen.  You say it firmly, but kindly.  Then you don’t bend over when she tells you how you *need* to do it her way.  You just keep repeating “no, this is what I’d like to do”.  

 

If you let this woman call the shots now, you’ll never make your own decisions again.

Post # 4
Member
4529 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@stuckinwonderland:  +1 I agree, this is setting the stage for interactions down the road.

@redbootz:  OP just be honest :-/

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