- 3 years ago
- Wedding: January 2015
So, I’m recently engaged, yay! But now my FI, myself and our families are trying to work out the logistics of our wedding plans. Here is the deal. I am originally from Ontario (ON) (and where my FI and I are hoping to live) and my FI is from British Columbia (BC).
My parents and some friends are in BC, but most of my extended family and closest friends are in ON. The opposite is true of my FI. His family is all on the west coast and most of his closest friends are in BC as well. There are people from both places that we really want to be there, but if we have only one celebration then several people will probably not be able to attend.
When we were going through our mock guest list. It’s split about 50/50 between both places. Just to give you an idea of travelling costs – to fly between Toronto and Vancouver is about $600 round trip, and a lot of our friends/family members have multiple kids now, so it would end up being really expensive for them, which means there is more of a chance that people won’t come. So essentially for half of our guest list, we would be having a destination wedding.
So, here are the options as we see them so far:
* Get married in BC (one ceremony/reception)
PROS: our immediate families will attend, beautiful landscapes and venues, FI’s friends and some of our mutual friends can attend. Easier wedding planning for myself (as I am living on the west coast)
CONS: most of my close friends and extended family may not be able to attend
* Get married in ON (one ceremony/reception)
PROS: most of my family and friends will be able to attend. Mutual friends will attend
CONS: FI’s family and friends may not attend
* Ceremony in ON, Reception in both BC and ON
PROS: we will get to see everyone
CONS: not everyone will be there for the ceremony. FI’s family may only attend the reception in BC and not the ceremony in ON. FI really wants his family to come to the ceremony.
* Ceremony and reception in BOTH ON and BC
PROS: everyone will get to attend one full wedding. We will have those who are important to us there. Possibility of having two different themes, venues, types of photos
CONS: too much planning and complication?
So, if we do decide to do the full two weddings (they would be two smaller weddings instead of one big wedding) that will complicate the wedding planning quite a bit.
Has anyone been in a similar predicament? How did you handle it? Any advice or ideas of how we can manage this?
- This topic was modified 2 years, 7 months ago by Keroppi.