(Closed) Help advice needed! Post wedding marriage blessing due to (huge) dress regret

posted 5 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My first thought is that your motivation for the 2nd ceremony is wrong.  It seems to be more about your vanity than actually wanting your marriage blessed in the Catholic church.  Why not just do another photo shoot so you get the pictures you want?

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

If it’s about your dress and not about the faith, honestly, I think you should have nice pictures done and call it a day. And that’s coming from an athiest…

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree with PPs.  Just get some bridal portraits done if you are that unhappy.  Having a second ceremony/wedding just because you don’t think you looked pretty enough on your wedding day would be selfish and vain.  It’s also offensive to use the the Catholic church and its rituals just so you can dress up again.

You got married to the man of your dreams and were able to celebrate with your friends and family.  That is the most important thing and is what you should focus on. =)

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Post # 8
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1115 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

This is one of the most vain posts I’ve ever read…

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

To answer your questions:

  1. I’m not Catholic, so I’m not sure but I know other denominations have ceremonies for blessings/vow renewals
  2. Ultimately that is a question for the officiant and church where you would be having the blessing/vow renewal. Will you get some sideways looks doing this in a red dress? Probably. But that would be true for a regular wedding just as much and there are plenty of brides out there that go with a red dress. Will you get some sideways looks for wearing a veil? Probably. I haven’t been to any vow renewals but I’ve seen some online and most do not feature veils. But, in the end, do what you want. And I don’t really think it’s any different if you’re holding it or wearing it trailing down your back.

About the post as a whole. I’m so so sorry that you’ve been having post wedding blues. I think the internet and bridal magazines have given many brides unrealistic expectations that can end in regret. How does your husband think you looked on your wedding day? Your family? Friends? I would bet good money they would say you looked radiant and happy and beautiful. Am I right? Then why not trust them? You and your wedding don’t need to look like a blog or a magazine photo spread. You need to look like you. So try not to get so caught up in how you think things should have looked and try to focus on the good parts of the day and how awesome it is that you got to marry the man of your dreams.

All that being said, if getting all dressed up with pro hair and make-up would make you feel better – go for it. You could do it for valentines day, your anniversary, because it’s Tuesday…Get all gussied up. Have a photo shoot with a pro. Go out to a nice dinner. Make it a whole day!

And a final note about having a dress to show your kids. I wouldn’t stress about it that much. Did you wear your mother’s dress? Do you actually know anyone who did? I have the wedding dresses for my mom and both grandmothers and i don’t fit into any of them. And none of them are really the style I want either. And they look better in the pictures than they do stuffed in the bottom of my cedar chest.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@meganska33:  I didn’t see your post, but based on the comments it sounds like you might not be happy with your wedding photos? Not quite sure?? You could do a “trash the dress” session (its not exactly what it sounds – usually the dress isn’t really destroyed at all, but some chose to do just that), I prefer the title “rock the dress” :). You & your husband can have a fun photoshoot day in a beautiful part of your city with a pro photographer.

If you have a lot of friends/relatives back at home who missed your wedding, you could do a small family reception & wear your wedding clothes (could even be a few months later). ~OR~ if you hired a videographer you could send them the wedding video & maybe send them a framed photo of the two of you? They could kinda “see” what it looked like πŸ™‚

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@meganska33:  :). Another idea is to make them a photo album from your wedding.

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