Post # 1
Okay, so here’s the deal. Both of my parent’s are remarried. My step-mom has been there for me throughout my middle school/high school career when my mom and I were not getting along. I personally don’t think of her as ‘mom’ my real mom is ‘mom’. My step mom is more my friend than anyone. Thus, she will be the Matron of Honor at my wedding.
However, when I told my mom this she was kind of put out by it. I tried explaining to her that its not because she’s more important..its because my step-mom is my friend and I don’t consider her my ‘mom. My mom is my only mom! Anyways. I still really want to include my mom specially somehow that will make her feel great.
So I was thinking.
What if I had my mom and step-dad (cause I don’t wanna leave him out either) walk me half way down the aisle. Then they could hand me off to my dad….then he could walk me the rest the way and hand me off to my fiance. Would that be okay? or too mumbo jumbo?
Anyone have any other ideas for including my mom and step-dad?
Post # 3
I think your idea sounds perfectly fine.
Another thing you could do is have some sort of ceremony like a unity candle or a sand ceremony. Those usually invlove your mother and the groom’s mother. And it’s something that would set her apart as your mother.
Also, some ceremonies have a place for the bride and the groom to present flowers to their mothers as a thank you for raising them and loving them, etc. That’s another gesture that could work if you don’t like the unity ceremony thing.
Post # 4
@Tehia_Ann: I think your idea sounds great as well! Don’t overthink it. I mean, when you think about it, weddings are always SO different in so many different ways. Your way is perfectly fine and not everyone has to know who everyone is, it’s just the way YOU wanted it to be! I think that is a good way to leave everyone included, though.
Hopefully other bee’s on here have better advice, but I think your idea sounds perfectly fine. I know how you feel though, it’s hard to make everyone (including YOU, the bride!) happy. But like I said, don’t overthink it too much! 🙂 It’ll all work out.
Post # 5
I agree, your idea sounds great! I am in the same position, I do not know what I will do at the end of the aisle either.
Post # 6
It is very challenging with step-families! My FI wanted my step-dad to be our officiant, but I said no because it would cause some serious family drama. I’m trying to include my step-mom–although she’s not the best thing that’s walked this earth–just to make my dad happy. Good luck balancing all the families. Just remember, at the end of the day it’s about you and the love of your life. I agree with Lees4308, don’t overthink it because it always works out!
Post # 7
Also, will you have dancing at your reception? If so, don’t only do a daddy/daughter dance, but you could do a mother/daughter dance. I’ve seen that done lots of times!