Help! Argument with Hubby over SIL Baby Shower gift

posted 1 month ago in Married Life
Post # 31
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Bumble Beekeeper

That’s crazy. Does he really want to buy her love? I agree with finding a cheaper yet meaningful gift for the shower. 

Post # 32
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Sugar bee

$1000 is a lot to me and we make comfortable money. My MIL bought us a Bob jogger which was around $300 and I think even that is crazy generous.

Post # 33
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

$1000 is INSANE for a stroller, especially for one that isn’t for you to use. I like the idea of a bond. That is a practical use of $1000, but I’d never ever spend that much on a baby shower gift for one of my sisters 

Post # 34
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Out of curiosity, what is the specific stroller?

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Meh- my stroller was $1200 (Canadian dollars) and I have zero regrets. With that being said, I would’ve never registered for it- DH and I fully intended to buy it ourselves but my ILs insisted on buying it for us. I would find a gift of $1000 to be excessive from anyone, never mind from someone I just recently rekindled a relationship with.

Post # 36
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

lar31017 :  I just bought a running stroller for under 200 with a car seat attached.  What on earth does this magical stroller have to offer?  

I think if you are okay with the expense, just not the literal gift, then allow him to do the college fund or whatever idea as a compromise.  Or split the difference and spend $500 on her registry.  He probably is excited about being an uncle and wants to spend a lot – I’ve gotten the impression that my sister has purchased several gifts for our baby and she’s not rolling in cash, she just wants to.

Post # 37
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Does the stroller move on it’s own and take care of the child? If not, then he needs to figure out a different gift!!

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

That’s crazy town. $250 is very generous and definitely enough. 

Post # 39
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Buzzing bee

I agree with other bees that the gift also looks showy and inappropriate. We’re TTC and have casually been looking at baby gear. The stroller we love is $1500 NZD, so I’m not judging the price if the actual stroller. But it is something we would buy ourselves. If someone gifted that to me, I would feel awkward. And if I were at a baby shower giving a packet of nappies, some bibs and some nipple cream, I would feel awkward if someone else turned up with a $1000 stroller 😂 

Also, if she hasn’t specifically said she wants this, don’t buy it. Mums and dads need to decide if a stroller is right for them. 

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Not to pry, but what the heck brand stroller is this?  I just spent the better part of two weeks researching jogging/all-terrain strollers.  The best ones out there are around $500.  I ended up purchasing a BOB revolution flex discounted display model at $400, but even the pro model with the hand brake is only $500.  I am so confused.  I am in the US, maybe you are somewhere else?  I seriously have never heard of a $1000 stroller.  Is there something about this $1000 stroller that makes it better than the top rated brands (bob, thule, etc) that are only 400-500?  Maybe it is a double stroller?

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

That’s a crazy expensive stroller.  I think you’re on the right track if you want to put that towards a bond or trust or something for the baby’s eventual education.  My godfather did that when I was a baby and it paid for a lot of my living costs in grad school.  But a stroller…no way.

Post # 42
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Busy bee

lar31017 :  it’s a natural human reaction. Just be mindful of it when you express your feelings to DH. If he feels like your objection is rooted in cattiness, he’ll tune out. You have plenty of logical, valid points to argue, don’t bring up the recent rift or personal feelings towards SIL. Point out to him that it sets a pricey precedent and sky high expectations going forward and this $1,000 stroller will end up costing you about 60K over the course of 30 years and the assumption of another kid. 

Post # 43
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

That is CRAZY.  I paid 2k for my last car and I drove for 8 years without having to invest more than oil changes in it, so spending half that on a stroller than you use for much less time is ridiculous and honestly kind of sinful.  However, to each their own and if it is worth it to her, than she should invest the money.  $1000 is a crazy amount to spend on a baby shower.  We are pregnant and not even grandparents are spending more than $500 and siblings no more than $250- and I come for a family that gives insane amounts of gifts!  I would either find several other people and split the cost of the stroller 3-5 ways, or just pick out a couple cute outfits and a gift card for the store she is registered at for $200- that way she can use it however she wants.  

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