Post # 1
I’m struggling with this one and need the etiquette experts to weigh in. Normally I err on the side of being overly polite. I send thank you cards for EVERYTHING.
This past weekend my girlfriend’s threw me a joint shower/bachelorette. Everyone brought a bottle of wine so no traditional gifts. We played some games and then hit a country bar. They all had to pay $40 to rent the party bus. Other than that, no additional expenses. We all slept at my MOH’s house. There was about 20 girls.
Should I be sending thank you cards??? My gut says yes but i DO NOT want to. is that awful? what’s the protocol here?
Post # 3
@mu_t: It sounds as if all of the participants in this event gave you gifts — they bought bottles of wine and paid for the transportation and refreshments for this evening to honor you and celebrate your upcoming wedding. I would send them thank-you notes.
Post # 4
@Brielle: ahh i was worried someone would say that : ) okay thanks, i do agree. i am just dreading it. haha. and i have never received a thank you for attending a bachelorette so i am not sure what the norm is.
Post # 5
You said you typically err on the side of being overly polite and sending thank you cards for everything, so go with that. 🙂
Post # 6
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
@mu_t: Rather than thanking them for the wine, etc, I feel ylou should write them each a note about how much it meant to you that they put together this party, and thank them for being a great friend/bridesmaid and for making the night unforgettable. Something like that thanks them for the time, effort, and money involved, but is more personal and applicable than the usual gift thank you.