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Oh, that stinks. I think you are just going to have to make due. There is no way you are going to be able to find somewhere else that is available and be able to change without losing money. While it does suck, maybe he can drape flowers and tulle around it to not make it so harsh?
I honestly prefer the new one. But it is clear that you do not.
If you really feel that this will ruin your wedding day, then I guess you can postpone it.
But just remember, on the day of your wedding... I am almost 100% sure that you will be so in love and in such bliss that you wont even notice the pergola. And when you look back at your pictures, all you will remember is how happy you felt.
Good luck!
I do think its pretty, and I know its not what you wanted. But relax and don't think about it for a day. This is just your knee jerk reaction.
Is it really worth the cost and inconvenience to you and your guests over a pergola that is pretty, but just not your style?
What did your florist say about possible decoraion ideas.
Maybe to soften it and make it less modern (I dont think its masculine) you could drape fabric.
Over the course of the wedding and wedding day you will only be there for 20-30 minutes and the bulk of your time will be at the reception. During that time you will be focused on your husband.
Why would they do this and not let you know when you originally booked it?
I still think it's very beautiful and to be honest an emergency could be "a lot worse". However, it is your wedding. I would look at how much money we would lose, how it might inconvenience your guests, issues with the caterers, bridal party and people that are travelling from out of town and scheduled off work to attend, before I decide if I'm going to postpone.
Good Luck!
I also prefer the gazebo and the feel that it gives ... BUT there is SO much you can do with the new structure. I would stick with your current venue and have your florist decorate it with flowers, vines and/or branches.
Okay first I think you need to slow down, take a breath, and think about what the word "emergency" means. Really. You're not having a problem with yours or your fi's health. You're not having second thoughts about being married. In the grand scheme of things, THIS? Is not an emergency. Maybe keeping that in mind will help you calm down a little.
As for the change... first I think it is a huge improvement. I love the pergolla, it is gorgeous. Second, it sounds like you have a great florist so why not have him/her do some swagging flowers over the pergola to make it less "masculine"? Third... do you really want to postpone your wedding over THIS? You're going to put your life on hold because of the backdrop of your ceremony? I know it isn't exactly what you pictured but you need to roll with the punches here. Make the best of it and remember the most important thing-- you are getting married to the love of your life! Thats what matters.
Oh no! So sorry - the last thing you need in the final countdown days is a change like this! but - step back a minute and take a deep breath. I'm guessing you already put down a deposit with your venue, if not a second installment, and you will lose that money (plus have to redirect your guests) if you back out now. The pergola IS a totally different feel than the gazebo, but bring in your most creative friends/vendors and really look at what you can do to it - you could drape it in net/chiffon and cover in flowers, you could hang lanterns, you could cover it in entwined brances with scattered flowers, and you may even be able to bring in moveable lattice "walls" or railings to give it more of the feel of the gazebo. Talk to the wedding coordinator at your venue, calmy but firmly explain why you're disappointed and what the look is you're going for - he or she may also have some creative ideas about how to make the perola fit in your overall "feel" you wanted. Good luck, keep us updated!
PLEASE don't postpone your wedding with less than a month to go over a PERGOLA. That is so inconvenient for your guests and family and is quite honestly veering into Bridezilla territory. I know it's not what you prefer, but sometimes you just gotta roll with the punches.
I think the new one is pretty, actually much prettier! I wouldn't post pon the wedding over it, but I do think so much more can be done with the way its made now, with flowers!
To me this doesn't really constitute an emergency, or something to postpone your wedding over. No one, including you, is going to be thinking "Oh, what a masculine looking pergola..." Let's not go overboard here.
I totally see how you like the old one better, its soo pretty! But i really think you could make the new one look really really pretty too!!!!!! If you use lots of fabric draps itll help to soften it up a LOT and then maybe some flowers too if you want. I say dont postpone everyone is going to think its gorgous either way. I know its a HUGE deal right now, but i think that by the end of your wedding day it wont even matter anymore.
I like the gazebo, but the new pergola isn't so bad. Dress it up with some flowers and it will be fine. I understand what you're going through but I don't think it's really worth stressing out over, so close to your wedding.
I definitely think they were in the wrong for not telling you about the change. However, I also like it better than the original gazebo. I think it is beautiful although it is clearly not your taste.
Is there anywhere else on the grounds you could hold your ceremony so that the new pergola isn't involved? If it bothers you that much, I think your best bet is to find a different location on the grounds rather than to alltogether postpone your wedding. In the grand scheme of things, this is rather insignificant. I think you are just so overwhelmed at the moment that it's difficult to maintain perspective on this issue. Your wedding day is about you and your FI, not about a gazebo or pergola.
I personally prefer pergolas over gazebos. They just look more modern to me. Drape and dress the pergola with flowers and it will be beautiful I promise you!
I can totally understand that this is a pretty significant change in structure...but is it worth losing your $ to pospone? Is it worth putting off your wedding? I mean if you postpone now, you don't know how long it would be until you're able to reschedule. Most venues book a year out...at least. You also can't reasonably refund all your guests travel arrangements.
I think if you work with your florist and photographer you'll be able to work around it. Between putting material to make it look a little more "soft" between the lattus work at the top and flowers it could be really beautiful.
I would recommend googling some pics and see what you think :) You also might be able to get a little back from the location to compensate for having the change without reasonable notice and to help pay for the extra cost of floral work.
I think the new pergola will work out. It's not your exact vision, but it's not the entire focus of the day either. I bet your florist can make that absolutely stunning. I am 10 days away from getting married and couldn't imagine postponing my wedding over a detail- don't do it!!!!!! Don't lose sight of what's really important that day. Eveything will be beautiful.
I wouldnt postpone the wedding- its not worth the stress and honsetly at the end of the day you will not be thinking about the gazebo! if the gazebo is the only thing that changed i think you will be fine - i actually prefer the new one, though i know you dont. I think you can make it just as beautiful as you imagined with some flowers and fabric. Get with your florist and get to work! good luck!
I'm sorry that this clearly came as an unwelcome shock to you. If it's any comfort, I think it's lovely, and I would never in a million years call it "masculine."
But it would be crazy to postpone your wedding over this. Maybe see if you can force the venue to pay the extra cost of decorating it, but your guests have already made plans, booked hotel rooms and plane tickets, taken time off work or said no to other plans for the weekend. It would be wildly rude to them to cancel the wedding because the backdrop is different than you expected.
I just quickly googled some pretty things...just as a general idea type thing. I think they're really pretty...
Also, just as a general search help you could look at houpa (spelling) decorations...no offense intended :)
I think it was def my first knee-jerk reaction. Thanks for all the ideas, I'm gonna meet with the florist and see what he can do. We're at the TOP of our budget so the venue is going to have to cover the costs of making this thing look like something I can deal with.
Thanks for the pep talk girls!
I think if this happened to me I'd find out why I wasn't told about the renovations sooner and probably end up asking for a discount. However, I would likely not postpone my wedding over it.
I think the pergola is gorgeous. I actually prefer it to the gazebo and I think it will work well for a wedding ceremony. Your ceremony is going to be gorgeous and so will your pictures. I'm sure your florist will do great things with it too. Also, remember that your ceremony is short and that you probably won't even notice it on the day of. This definitely is not an emergency or something to consider postponing your wedding over! Maybe you are really stressed and this is the straw that broke the camels back? I dont know, but I really wouldnt worry about it that much. There are many worse things in the world!
Yeah...this isn't an emergency and you def need to chill out. A change in structure (that IMO looks way better) isn't something to postpone your wedding over.
I would hardly consider this an “emergency” nor would I ever postpone my wedding due to it. I don’t know how things work where you’re from but the vendors around here will only go to certain lengths to help out a client who needs to reschedule. Chances are you would forfeit all of your deposits and have to start from scratch. Is a pergola (which I happen to think is leaps and bounds better than the gazebo) really worth all of that extra work and lost money? Besides that, what about the burden you’ll be placing on your guests? Your wedding is in 17 days so your friends and family have already made their arrangements to be there for you. Cancelling now only to require their attendance in a few months is selfish and borderline bridezilla. To be honest, unless you were very close to me (immediate family or absolute best friends) I would probably not attend the rescheduled wedding if I knew the reason why it was changed.
I get that you had this picture in your head of what your ceremony would look like but I guarantee that it will still be gorgeous. What’s important is that you’re marrying the love of your life. In 20 years you’ll look back at your pictures and laugh over the fact that this caused you so much stress in the days leading up to your wedding.
I think another reason I'm soo pissed is the way that the venue decided to handle it. They've known about this for a while now and I can't understand why they didn't disclose this waay in advance.
Not an emergency.
DON'T postpone the wedding, whatever you do.
I think you were just in shock over the sudden change, and you're probably stressed anyway because the wedding's coming up, so you overreacted. Understandable, but step back from the situation and see it for what it is -- not a big deal.
I think the new one looks WAY better, actually.
Cover it with florals if you don't like it. It will be WAY cheaper to do that than to postpone your wedding. I'd be pretty upset if I were paying to attend a wedding and the bride postponed and ruined my travel plans because she didn't like the newer structure she was getting married under.
@almatron21: I would bet because they didnt make that big a change in reality. Its still an outdoor ceremony space. A different style, but it is still offering the same. I suspect most people would just go "Oh, its different, bummer" or "Oh they changed it! I love it!"
They should have told you it was being done earlier, but if I had been the MK manager of that place, which I suspect is a very busy person, this would not have been high on my list of priorities because I dont see it as being a major change.
Um honestly, your wedding is 2 weeks away, I really wouldn't even think of postponing it over a gazebo. I can understand that you're upset becuase they didn't notify you of the change, and you should speak to them about it. But just think of everything that you have done up to this point to plan for your wedding and then postponing it. I'm sure you can think of a good idea or the florist can about making the pergola look softer.
This did happen to me, 2 weeks before my wedding I went to the reception hall to find out they had gotten rid of the nice drapery and windows they had before and had put in some weird floral printed valances and BLACK blinds... they had also changed the colors without telling me, I was a bit dissappointed but in the end I just had to make do and in the end people loved the hall.
To be honest I also prefer the newer one so I would just stick to that site and not try changing it this late in the game
@almatron21: The venue likely considers this an improvement and thinks their customers will be thrilled that an aging gazebo was replaced with something clean lined and new- that's why they didn't notify you.
I can see your disappointment though, as it's not what you had pictured for your wedding.
You could hang honeycomb garlands from the pergola 
Here's a recent post discussing these garlands
http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/have-you-seen-these-streamers
@lefeymw: It's a pretty big change imo. It's a completely different structure. How far in advance did they know these renovations were coming, too? Did they know they were going to renovate when the OP booked the venue (it isn't unreasonable to think so, renovations are usually planned well in advance)?
I definitely agree the OP shouldn't postpone her wedding over this because in the end it's not THAT big a deal, but I would probably expect some compensation for not being informed about this earlier. I mean, if I had known they planned to renovate, I probably would not have booked with them to begin with. If they had told me 8 months earlier that they were going to change the way the place looked, I may have considered changing venues.
yikes, I'd complain and maybe you can get something out of it - check your contract... but I'd say you have to make do.
@almatron21: Keep calm dear. It's a huge bummer not to have that gazeebo, it was very romantic... BUT focus on the big picture. Do you really want to lose money, stress out bigtime, and possibly have a nervous breakdown by trying to switch your venue in SEVENTEEN DAYS????
Relax. Breathe. Everything will be okay. The new fixture is very pretty, and because of it's simplicity, there are more options now for you to "personalize" decoration. Don't forget the most important thing about this whole ordeal: you will be marrying the LOVE of your LIFE. That should trump all else.
Though I will say it was a dick move for the venue to "conveniently forget" to tell you about it for weeks. Just mention that when you leave a review for them. >:)
And hey, if nothing else, you've got a great story to tell your kids :)
Could you do draping all around it? Then it would sorta be gazebo-ish. But it really does look nice, although I can understand your fustration because you expected one thing and got something else. But in weddings-something always goes wrong and all though this seems devastating it could have been a lot worse...they could have had something hold up their remodeling and you could be getting married in mud. Just throwing that out there.
She's already updated that she has calmed down. :-) No need to keep telling her to calm down.
I think they both look nice, but I'd be peeved too. They should have told you about this major change.
I think the ideas that PPs have posted on here are great. I especially like the idea of weaving and draping a lot of plant material around it. That would be really stunning.
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OMG, So my venue just emailed me and told me that the renovated the grounds and it looks COMPLETLY different than what I bought.. and my wedding is in 17 DAYS!!
They tore down the gazebo and put up some modern, masculine looking pergola. Now, I know a lot of people think it's pretty but its just not my style at all and not what I wanted to get married under.
I called my florist to see what he can do and he told me that he did a wedding there a couple of WEEKS ago and it was beautiful. So they've known about this for WEEKS and decide to tell me NOW.
I hate it so much, I'm actually thinking of post-poning the wedding to find a venue I'm 100% happy with. What do you think I should do??
See picture of the gazebo that was what I wanted and the new modern pergola they put up: