(Closed) Help Bees! Need reading/poem for ceremony!

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Here is the reading we did, I loved it:

It’s called The Art of a Good Marriage


Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.
A good marriage must be created.
In marriage the little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon, it should continue through all the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice,

but in the spirit of joy.
It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humour.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner

Post # 4
315 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 1997

I sent you a PM

Post # 5
2143 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

When I read this poem last week, I thought it would make a really great wedding reading- Fidelity by Darling Husband Lawrence.

Ok, after googling it, I see that it’s being advertised as a wedding reading, but they shorten it and take out the word orgasm, haha. Which is a shame because it’s a great poem and I can’t find the full text anywhere but my book. I’ll have to type it out for you.


Fidelity and love are two different things, like a flower and a gem.

And love, like a flower, will fade, will change into something else

or it would not be flowery.


O flowers they fade because they are moving swiftly; a little torrent of life

leaps up to the summit of the stem, gleans, turns over round the bend

of the parabola of curved flight,

sinks, and is gone, like a comet curving into the invisible.


O flowers they are all the time travelling

like comets, and they come into our ken

for a day, for two days, and withdraw, slowly vanishing again.


And we, we must take them on the wing, and let them go. 

Embalmed flowers are not flowers, immortelles are not flowers;

flowers are just a motion, a swift motion, a coloured gesture;

that is their loveliness. And that is love.


But a gem is much different. I lasts so much longer than we do

so much longer

that is seems to last forever. 

Yet we know it is flowing away

as flowers are, and we are, only slower.

The wonderful slow flowing of the sapphire!


All flows, and every flow is related to every other flow. 

Flowers and sapphires and us, diversely streaming.


In the old days, when sapphires were breathed upon and brought forth

during the wild orgasms of chaos

time was much slower, when the rocks came forth.

It took aeons to make a sapphire, aeons for it to pass away.


And a flower it takes a summer.


And a man and woman are like the earth, that brings forth flowers in summer, and love, but underneath is rock.

Older than flowers, older than ferns, older than foraminiferae

older than plasm altogether is the soul of a man underneath.


And when, throughout all the wild orgasms of love slowly a gem forms, in the ancient, once-more-molten rocks

of two human hearts, two ancient rocks, and man’s heart and a woman’s,

that is the crystal of peace, the slow hard jewel of trust, the sapphire of fidelity.

The gem of mutual peace emerging from the wild chaos of love.



Post # 6
9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Schreier13:  How about something short?  


Cloths of Heaven by Yeats

Had I the heavens' embroidered cloths,
Enwrought with golden and silver light,
The blue and the dim and the dark cloths
Of night and light and the half light,
I would spread the cloths under your feet:
But I, being poor, have only my dreams;
I have spread my dreams under your feet;
Tread softly because you tread on my dreams.

Post # 7
9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Oh c’mon editing thing!!!

Cloths of Heaven by Yeats (that’s not the right title btw)

Had I the heavens’ embroidered cloths,

Enwrought with golden and silver light,

The blue and the dim and the dark cloths

Of night and light and the half light,

I would spread the cloths under your feet:

But I, being poor, have only my dreams;

I have spread my dreams under your feet;

Treat softly because you tread on my dreams

Post # 8
111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We’re considering the following two readings:

From “The Irrational Season” by Madeleine L’EngleBut ultimately there comes a moment when a decision must be made. Ultimately two people who love each other must ask themselves how much they hope for as their love grows and deepens, and how much risk they are willing to take…It is indeed a fearful gamble…Because it is the nature of love to create, a marriage itself is something which has to be created, so that, together we become a new creature.

To marry is the biggest risk in human relations that a person can take…If we commit ourselves to one person for life this is not, as many people think, a rejection of freedom; rather it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom, and the risk of love which is permanent; into that love which is not possession, but participation…It takes a lifetime to learn another person…When love is not possession, but participation, then it is part of that co-creation which is our human calling, and which implies such risk that it is often rejected.

From “The Velveteen Rabbit” by Margery Williams“What is REAL?” asked the Rabbit one day, when they were lying side by side near the nursery fender, before Nana came to tidy the room. “Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?”

“Real isn’t how you are made,” said the Skin Horse. “It’s a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.”

“Does it hurt?” asked the Rabbit.

“Sometimes,” said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. “When you are Real you don’t mind being hurt.”

“Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,” he asked, “or bit by bit?”

“It doesn’t happen all at once,” said the Skin Horse. “You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.”

 NOTE: We’re in our 40’s and have been together for over 13 years…nearly14 years by the time our wedding happens this Fall. So, yes, we’re a bit thread bare and missing a few parts, and I’ve been married before, so I’ve been a bit gun shy. These fit well for us. 

Post # 9
1056 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

This is mine! I love it!  It fits us!  🙂


My Love… Everlasting

You were a dream… A dream that filled my thoughts and my loneliest nights.

You were the dream I held on to, the dream my heart longed to one day have.

You were the dream that made me smile… an escape from my reality, a fantasy I longed to one day come true.

Once only my dream, my escape, my fantasy, came true the day when I first saw you.

My dream that used to be is now my reality.

A fantasy waiting for its happy ending is now a fairytale come true.

Once my only escape… is now the comfort that I live for.

Together we have been through the heartaches… the pain of walking away or being left behind.

Every new road we had to take because of the choices we had to make, only paved the road that brought us closer to one another.

Life may not be easy, with all the burdens and drama that life hands to us, but when you find someone to share your life with, no drama is hard to handle… no burden is hard to bare.

When you have someone… the one that you’ve dreamed of… then your life becomes the escape you both take to get away from the reality that surrounds.

I know because… I found the love… my lifetime partner my soul mate in YOU!

– Jenny C Phillips –

Post # 10
540 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We are using “I Love You” by Carl Sandburg:


I love you. I love you for what you are, but I love you yet more for what you are going to be. I love you not so much for your realities as for your ideals. I pray for your desires, that they may be great, rather than for your satisfactions, which may be so hazardously little. A satisfied flower is one whose petals are about to fall. But the most beautiful rose is one, hardly more than a bud, wherein the pangs and ecstasies of desire are working for larger and finer growth. Not always shall you be
what you are now. You are going forward toward something great. I am on the way with you and . . I love you.



Post # 11
540 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Chery_L:  My favorite children’s book of all time.  Reminds me so much of my childhood teddy bear and life in general.  Makes me teary!  Hoping for a velveteen rabbit nursery some day.  🙂

Post # 12
326 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We’re incorporating this:

You share today the joy of a deep commitment
And a sacred trust, and you have given each other
The most precious gift of love.

Treasure it, nurture it and encourage it
With all the honesty you used in creating it.

You are sharing something rare and beautiful.
Always speak the truth and listen attentively
So that you may understand each others thoughts and intentions.

Inspire each other by sharing your accomplishments.
Say I love you often to retain the warmth between you.

Laugh a lot too, even when you are angry.
Remember you are each other’s best friend.
Stand together and for each other always.
May each day be a gift
And the fulfillment of your dreams.

Post # 13
166 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m so glad I came across this post. I was searching today for some reading options and found little success. I really like “The Art of a Good Marriage” and OliveT’s reading. Thanks Bees

Post # 14
326 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MrsReidizzle:  Yay!  It was one of the options our officiant gave us – there was no “name” for it, but I liked it – short, sweet, and to the point.  🙂 

Post # 15
70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

This is what I want at ours, it’s from the book Captain Corelli’s Mandolin by Louis de Bernieres 


Love is a temporary madness,
it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides.
And when it subsides you have to make a decision.
You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together
that it is inconceivable that you should ever part.
Because this is what love is.
Love is not breathlessness,
it is not excitement,
it is not the promulgation of eternal passion.
That is just being “in love” which any fool can do.
Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away,
and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.
Those that truly love, have roots that grow towards each other underground,
and when all the pretty blossom have fallen from their branches,
they find that they are one tree and not two

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