(Closed) Help Bees!! Really don’t know what to do…

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 4
14498 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Tough one, It would have to be made absolutely CLEAR that they are to come to the ceremony ONLY.  I don’t know how that would work, but if they have it clear in their heads than it would be ok to do, especially since they are the ones suggesting it.  It may also be their way of coming to both, so tread carefully when responding to these requests.   Make sure they understand that there is no room for them at the reception and they will be turned away. 

Post # 5
5273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

This is Tough!!

I do think it would be very awkard for them to only go to the ceremony; but we do have to understand that some people don’t have this “that is rude” mantality, and although they really may be comfortable with just going to the ceremony, I think for your sake, I would say no. However, would it be possible for you two to host a get together at your/friend/families home after the wedding? Then you can invite your cousins over for an after the wedding celebration, that way you are still celebrating with them vs. leaving them out completely.

As a sidenote, we did the same thing: invited aunts & uncles and no cousins because we have waaaay to many.

Post # 6
233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

It is very normal for there to be more people at the ceremony than at the reception.  I would invite the closest family members to the reception, and the rest can attend the ceremony if they wish.  You shouldn’t feel bad about not being able to invite absolutely everyone to the reception.

I would feel more slighted to not be invited to anything than to just be invited to the ceremony.  Just be clear to your aunts that the reason you’re not inviting cousins to the reception is due to finances and space constraints… they should understand.

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