(Closed) Help Bees!! So Confused…

posted 7 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Should I keep my original ering or get something less ornate?
    Keep your ring girl! You've got an awesome warranty so stop worrying! : (12 votes)
    46 %
    That would drive me crazy...you should probably simplify. : (14 votes)
    54 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    8354 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    That is a beautiful ring, but from what you have stated, it seems like you don’t really like it; for you. I think you might be rough with your hands and that is affecting the stones. Before I got to the end of your story, I was going to just suggest that you get the jeweler to set the stones deeper, but after looking at your ring, I don’t think that would be an option. I could be wrong though. If I were you, I would exchange it for a more durable ring, so you wouldn’t be constantly worrying about losing the stones.

    Post # 5
    Member
    148 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Keep it and stop worrying.  Are you sure that it’s more like you just don’t like the ring?  If it’s a ring you thoroughly dislike, I’d exchange it.  But if it’s just convenient, I think you’ll get used to it.  Just remember each time you look at it, THIS is the ring your fiance looked at and thought you would love, thought would look great on you, and imagined himself proposing with.  I’m a very sentimental person so even if I hated the ring, I still wouldn’t be able to exchange it!  It really is beautiful and I’m sure that you can get a custom band for it ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 6
    Member
    69 posts
    Worker bee

    Your ring is beautiful, but you seem to be coming up with reasons not to keep it.  This might sound lame, but I think a good old pro and con list is in order.

    Good luck with whatever decision you end up making ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 7
    Member
    3978 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    It’s such a beautiful ring, but I understand how you feel with just not being comfortable with it.

    My ring is a little big and it’s always spinning around! I just got my wedding band (a simple gold band that fits perfect) and I wore it for a few hours around my house. I was amazed by how much less stress it caused me not having to constantly be fussing with it!

    I say exchange ๐Ÿ™ as lovely as it is

    Post # 8
    Member
    7175 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I’m shocked people don’t think it’s a e-ring!  

    How much would it cost to replace the side stones, if they got lost?  My custom wedding band has some smaller diamonds around it and at first I was concerned about if one fell out but then I realized the cost to replace them wouldn’t be as much as my e-ring bigger stones, so it help assuage my fear.  Maybe if you found that out, you’d feel better about it??

    Personally, I’m not a fan of telling your FI you want a different ring.  That ring is so different than a tradition band/solitaire that I’d think it would hurt his feelings over something so sentimental.  If he hasn’t brought it up, I wouldn’t mention it to him.

    Post # 9
    Member
    9825 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    Give it a week to think about it. If you still feel the same way, simplify. It’s beautiful and for what it’s worth, I think it looks like an engagement ring, but maybe you’re just a solitaire girl! If your fiance is cool with whatever your decision is, don’t worry and go with your intuition.

    Post # 10
    Member
    1488 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I lost a stone in mine after 2 days so I totally get what you’re saying about worrying all the time. I constantly checked mine once I got it back for any stones that looked loose or missing stones, overtime though I’ve stopped checking so often. I say if you love it keep it, eventually you’ll stop worrying about it all the time like you are now.

    About not feeling engaged yet, if you’ve been telling people (outside of family and friends) that you’re engaged for a while it may not have the same impact even if you get a different ring.

    Post # 11
    Member
    2767 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I think it’s pretty!  But do what makes you feel best.

    The topic ‘Help Bees!! So Confused…’ is closed to new replies.

    Find Amazing Vendors