Post # 1
My engagement ring is beautiful! Sparkly and unique, not to mention sentimental, she’s exactly what I thought I wanted. Here is my problem (and I feel only the bees will understand so I need some honest feedback), she’s just too elaborate. The night I got engaged I wore my ring for a total of 4 hours before a stone fell out! Before you GASP! I will tell you I got her fixed the very next day for free. My warranty is awesome…if anything happens like that I just take it in and they fix it ASAP for free (they literally fixed it in 10-15 minutes). The only issue I see with this is that it’s likely we won’t always live in San Antonio, so if this happens down the line, we’ll either have to ship it down or make a trip to get it fixed (going to any other jeweler to get it fixed voids the warranty). For now she’s back to all her stunning glittery glory.
But now I just can’t relax about my ring. I know that the stone most likely fell out just because we sized the ring down, and I knew that something like this would EVENTUALLY happen…just not after 4 hours. Now I can’t relax…anytime I look at my beautiful ring, I feel like I spend more time looking for missing stones than I do admiring it’s beauty.
The other problem I have with this ring is that for some reason I don’t “feel” engaged. It’s not because I’m not used to the idea of being engaged…I’ve been with SO for 4.5 years we’ve been saying we’re engaged when dealing with anyone other than family and friends for years. I feel if I held my hand up to show I was engaged, people would just say “That’s a really pretty ring” and not really get that it was an ering. I’m freaking out about this right now because we have 10 days from the time the ring was bought to return it (or in our case…probably exchange it).
Final problem with the ring…a wedding band just doesn’t fit. I’d either have to get a band custom made or have a massive gap. This issue doesn’t bother me too too much but it is another consideration. If I get something different, I think it will be a plain round solitaire on a gold band.
My FI thinks the ring is very pretty but I don’t think he’d be against getting something different. This is SOOO long…sorry ladies, thanks for reading, please vote
Post # 3
That is a beautiful ring, but from what you have stated, it seems like you don’t really like it; for you. I think you might be rough with your hands and that is affecting the stones. Before I got to the end of your story, I was going to just suggest that you get the jeweler to set the stones deeper, but after looking at your ring, I don’t think that would be an option. I could be wrong though. If I were you, I would exchange it for a more durable ring, so you wouldn’t be constantly worrying about losing the stones.
Post # 4
@noritake22: Thanks for the advice. I’m really not rough on my hands at all though which is why I’m so freaked out about a diamond falling out so quickly. And the ring is gorgeous and honestly VERY much my personality…unfortunately my personality is also a worrier. I just don’t know if I will eventually get used to it and not worry so much or if it will always be on my mind.
Post # 5
Keep it and stop worrying. Are you sure that it’s more like you just don’t like the ring? If it’s a ring you thoroughly dislike, I’d exchange it. But if it’s just convenient, I think you’ll get used to it. Just remember each time you look at it, THIS is the ring your fiance looked at and thought you would love, thought would look great on you, and imagined himself proposing with. I’m a very sentimental person so even if I hated the ring, I still wouldn’t be able to exchange it! It really is beautiful and I’m sure that you can get a custom band for it 🙂
Post # 6
Your ring is beautiful, but you seem to be coming up with reasons not to keep it. This might sound lame, but I think a good old pro and con list is in order.
Good luck with whatever decision you end up making 🙂
Post # 7
It’s such a beautiful ring, but I understand how you feel with just not being comfortable with it.
My ring is a little big and it’s always spinning around! I just got my wedding band (a simple gold band that fits perfect) and I wore it for a few hours around my house. I was amazed by how much less stress it caused me not having to constantly be fussing with it!
I say exchange 🙁 as lovely as it is
Post # 8
I’m shocked people don’t think it’s a e-ring!
How much would it cost to replace the side stones, if they got lost? My custom wedding band has some smaller diamonds around it and at first I was concerned about if one fell out but then I realized the cost to replace them wouldn’t be as much as my e-ring bigger stones, so it help assuage my fear. Maybe if you found that out, you’d feel better about it??
Personally, I’m not a fan of telling your FI you want a different ring. That ring is so different than a tradition band/solitaire that I’d think it would hurt his feelings over something so sentimental. If he hasn’t brought it up, I wouldn’t mention it to him.
Post # 9
Give it a week to think about it. If you still feel the same way, simplify. It’s beautiful and for what it’s worth, I think it looks like an engagement ring, but maybe you’re just a solitaire girl! If your fiance is cool with whatever your decision is, don’t worry and go with your intuition.
Post # 10
I lost a stone in mine after 2 days so I totally get what you’re saying about worrying all the time. I constantly checked mine once I got it back for any stones that looked loose or missing stones, overtime though I’ve stopped checking so often. I say if you love it keep it, eventually you’ll stop worrying about it all the time like you are now.
About not feeling engaged yet, if you’ve been telling people (outside of family and friends) that you’re engaged for a while it may not have the same impact even if you get a different ring.
Post # 11
I think it’s pretty! But do what makes you feel best.
Post # 12
Thanks everyone. I didn’t mean for my post to seem 1 sided exactly…it just depends on how I’m feeling at the moment. I go between being 100% in love with it to all of a sudden 2nd guessing. If I didn’t love it, I don’t think I’d be having such a hard time.
@MrsTrigger: I doubt FI is going to want to go with a custom band (because of $) I’ll probably just live with the gap. I’m totally sentimental too which is where a huge part of my hangup about this is. However, we chose the ring together and the style is more my style than something I think FI would’ve picked out on his own…so I don’t feel quite as sentimental as I would had it been his choice.
@hunnybunny1017: Thanks. I definitely am a pro/con girl but I felt like I needed some outside opinions to maybe get perspective…I love that the bee makes it so easy to hear all these different opinions!
@kala_way: Exactly! To be able to wear something without thinking about it would be awesome!
@oracle: He knows that I was thinking of possibly changing it and he’s okay with it. Honestly if he even has any problem with it, it’s the issues of having to return it haha. The stones cost nothing to replace…just a pain in the butt. And if we ever move I HAVE to bring the ring to this jeweler to get it fixed or else the warranty is void. So extra pains…
@KatyElle: Thanks. Unfortunately I don’t even have a whole week to make the choice. But I will give it as long as I can before making the final decision definitely.
@floridabride12: It’s so great to hear that you stop thinking about it eventually!!! I hope that’s true for me as well!
@amariem25: Thank you! I think it’s pretty too 🙂