Post # 1
Hi everyone! This is my first time posting and I’m super excited!
I wanted to get some people’s advice on what I can tell my guests to do during a long gap (3 hours) between the ceremony and reception. My ceremony will be at a church in Glen Cove, NY, and it will end at about 3:30pm. The reception starts at 6:30 at Crest Hollow. What are some things I can look into for my guests to do during those 3 hours?
Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
Post # 3
That’s a tough one. If my mom & I were coming to your wedding we’d spend the 3 hours in Fortunoff’s but that’s not much help to you.
Right now the only thing that is coming to mind is if you could somehow get your guests to congregate in a place that has coffee, tea, small cakes, etc (without necessarily renting out a starbucks)- just something to tide them over until the reception and doesn’t require too much effort on their part since they will be dressed up.
Post # 4
I have a 2 hour gap between my ceremony and the start of my reception. Because we have a lot of out of town guests and the hotel is closer to the reception site than the church, we are encouraging people to use this time to check in. There is also a bar in the hotel as well as one at the reception site where my dad plans to open a tab before the cocktail hour officially starts.
Another option is to have someone who lives in the area host a small reception at their home for those who do not live in the area. This is a good opportunity for someone who isn’t in your wedding party to be a part of your day.
Post # 6
i don’t know LI that well so I can’t help you out there.
there’s been some other posts about a time gap on these boards so you may want to read those threads. my experience is with a gap, people will usually skip out on the ceremony, so prepare yourself for that. also, if a lot of your guests are local, some may just choose to go home for a few hours – i’ve done that before.
Post # 7
Anytime I attend a wedding with a gap, a bunch of my old friends and I spend the time at a nearby bar. It’s always an improv thing and nobody ever minded.
Post # 8
In my experience, local guests will go home to get ready for the reception and OOT guests will use the time to check in to hotel, get ready, and informally gather amongst themselves in the hotel lobby/bar. I don’t think you need to worry about making any formal plans… we LI-ers can usually easily entertain ourselves. 😉
Post # 9
Thanks for all the helpful suggestions guys! It’s much appreciated!
I should probably also mention that many of the guests won’t be from out of town. They’ll be coming from either Manhattan, Queens, Staten Island, or NJ. For the guests that are coming from SI, it would be too long a drive to go home, rest, and then drive back to LI.
Any other thoughts?
Post # 10
scavenger hunt?? ok i’m kidding…
is there another area in your reception venue that will offer coffee/tea/fruit but not too much so as to ruin appetites for dinner??
im useless with advice – i’ve only ever been to the city and then albany so i’m so not familiar with your area to give you any good suggestions…
Post # 11
I’m not sure what kind of city Glen Cove is like, but here’s my suggestion:
I’m making my guests a map of attractions. It’ll show them famous stores, movie theatres, museums and the like. 🙂 Pretty much a map of the downtown area of the city we’re getting married in.
Of the guests that do know of my plan, they love it. 🙂
And if it helps to know, my ceremony ends at 2:30 p.m., and the reception starts at 5 p.m.
Post # 12
Get a couple good friends to offer to lead various outings – one to take people on a walking tour, one to take people to a bar, etc. Pick a few activities that people will want to do all dressed up!
Post # 13
I have been to a few weddings (catholic usually!) that have the big gap. And to be honest I don’t think its your responsibility to entertain me.
1) Some people will choose to skip the ceremony
2) Some will go home
3) Some will run to the local mall– errands etc
If you know the area you could have a little list of "area attractions" Malls, movie theatres, local parks, coffee shops– really the time will fly by so don’t worry about it
Post # 14
Perhaps you could suggest a visit to a local arboretum and provide the name of a local cafe or tea shop where they can get a nice snack. If you suggest places that you visit as a couple you could include little notes about the places (Joe’s Bakery – Mike thinks the shortbread is divine but Susie thinks the cream puffs are out of this world. or We had our first date here.)
I also don’t think that the scavenger hunt idea is such a bad one. You could offer prizes at the end. (maybe that is how you decide who takes the flowers home or perhaps a differnt favor. Send them to places that you have been (preferably with no entrance fee) and have them pickup a picture of the two of you taken at the at place (perhaps saying how the place plays a part in your relationship.) Since this brings in business the shops may be very cooperative in having astack of pictures at thier counter for the wedding guests. You could then have small albums (simple homemade would do) for people to put the pictures in as favors for the wedding. People will then have pictures of you as a couple. You could even have someone take a picture right after the ceremony and then go to a one hour place and have pictures printed up as the final scavenger hunt picture to be picked up at the reception. Don’t make it a timed thing but a comleteness thing. Perhaps about 5 places excluding the reception hall. You could even have the hunt be en route to the reception site so that it’s all on the way.
Post # 15
Wow, so many great ideas guys, thanks! The scavenger hunt idea is cool, but I feel it’s so much work to do and I’m not sure I have the time to plan it out. But tberry: I appreciate the thought you put into the idea!
I should also mention that I am not familiar with Glen Cove or Long Island at all! So I won’t be able to think of favorite places to go or anything like that.
Cinderellasmom: I appreciate you saying that it’s not my responsibility to entertain the guests, although I do feel the responsibility. A couple of people have already started asking me what they can do during that time gap, so that’s why I feel the pressure. Some have even said that I should think of places to go and include that as an insert in the invitation… but the invitations have gone out already. Hmm.
Lenity: How did you get that map you made to all the guests? Did you include it in the invitation, or you gave it out the day of the wedding? Just curious…
Thanks again, guys!
Post # 16
Lotus – I think it is great you are thinking about this. I went to a wedding with a 2 hour gap and there was no mention of what we might do. We ended up stiting in Starbucks all dressed up, very bored. It would have been great had my friend done *anything* ahead of time to give us an idea of what we might do with ourselves!! So, it doesn’t have to be elaborate, or take a lot of time, just the fact that you are thinking about your guests will be appreciated!