(Closed) HELP! BM advice!

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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404 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

If your budget has room and the venue allows, I would just add the extra guests so your bridal party can have dates.

But first, I would confront the Bridesmaid about her swapping out her brother for her boyfiend and explain the situation it has put you all in. 

It will not be an easy conversation, but I think a necessary one out of fairness to all involved.

Post # 5
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1418 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I agree with smith207.  I think you are ok bringing it up with her now without causing a big problem because you are still allowing her bf to come.  If you needed to tell her he can’t come, then you are much more likely to cause problems.  You should make her aware of this situation so that nothing else happens in these last few weeks – just to be on the safe side!

Post # 6
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2641 posts
Sugar bee

Well I’m wondering if being so upset, and not wanting her to stand up for you is a little harsh.  I guess in particular, I’m wondering if she just didn’t undertand it was a big deal to take her boyfriend since her brother couldn’t come.  I’m not saying it was the polite thing to do.  I’m just saying she might not have meant it in a deliberate “I’m going to bring my bf come hell or high water” attitude.

I’m honestly in favor of allowing the bp to bring dates, even if not the rest of your guests.  They put a lot of effort, time and money into your wedding. 

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