Post # 1
I’m having a destination wedding in Lake Tahoe. My matron, who is also my best friend and cousin wants to celebrate her first wedding anniversary in Lake Tahoe so she can check it out for my wedding. I told her I really did not want her to go there for her anniversary…..after my wedding I won’t care.
I want the beauty of the place in Lake Tahoe where we are having the ceremony to be a surprise to everyone.
Am I wrong for not wanting her to celebrate her 1st anniversary checking out my wedding site before my wedding?
Post # 3
I think you’re being pretty controlling. Your ceremony will still be special even if she goes to Lake Tahoe ahead of time.
Post # 4
Yes, you are wrong. You don’t own Tahoe! How would you feel if someone told you you could not have your wedding there, because of…whatever reason?
Post # 5
I have to agree… your ceremony will be really special to her even if she already went there. Her focus when celebrating her anniversary will be very different than when she is attending for your wedding. As you MOH, it may also be helpful if, out of everyone, she has an idea of the area. Then, if things go wrong, or you need something, it will be more likely that she is able, and will be more comfortable assisting in the area! I think it’s someting to let slide 🙂 too many other issues that will come up that will be more important. Pick your battles wisely 🙂
Post # 6
Yes, you are overreacting. You can’t lay claim to a place. She is perfectly within her rights to go there. Don’t worry, your wedding will still be special!
Post # 7
Why WOULDN’T you want her to check it out? If she’s your MOH and she has seen the location she’ll be much more helpful than people who are unfamiliar with the place. Plus then you can talk about any ideas you have for decor etc. with someone who has actually been there.
Yes, I think your overreacting – it’s not like no one has ever been there before.
Post # 8
I can understand how you are feeling! You want it to be special for everyone..”You” went through all of the work to find it…and “you” want to show it to your guests. I totally get that. I would be a little upset too….
But just think, its only one person…You have a whole bunch of other people to show it to….that will love it….and that will know you went through the work…and that will know it is all “YOU”.. I wouldn’t let her ruin it for you!
Post # 9
Once it’s all set up for your ceremony it’s going to looks so completely different than it does now. Even more so if it’s a different time of year. Even if she is to go to the same location/resort/house or whatever, when your wedding rolls around it will be much different.
I would let her go. What if you wanted to go to Cancun for your 1st anniversary and then your “best friend” told you no because she wanted to get married in Cancun later on? Doesn’t make sense to me.
Post # 10
Yeah, you have to let that one slide. I really don’t think it’s fair to tell other people that they can’t visit your wedding location. Lake Tahoe is a pretty popular destination, so chances are some of your guests will have already been there.